So I was travelling to another city to visit friends and decided to also take opportunity to visit an elderly relative who lived there too. This was all to be within one day.
I only mentioned to my DH about the proposed visit to relative the night before I left. He said "Don't you think that's too much in one day? .. will get tired... you never told me.."
I said "It's ok .. Don't try to control what I do.." at which point he got very angry and swore and told me to "f off and sod off" and that was the worse insult I could give him (saying he's controlling)! How dare I say that .. he was just concerned about me.
A row continued and he said "f...ing" this and that and "feminist claptrap".
Yes there is a context to all this and we are trying to work on our relationship after problems. He has a quick temper and always swears horribly to me and I don't like it. He says I started it and it's my fault which is what he usually says.
My view is that he could have said "hey no I'm not trying to control you just worried" but instead he just fumes at me!
I have read many times on here that partners never swear at each other - when I quote this he disbelieves it and gives me a lengthy counter argument. He will say "Internet rubbish". And now he tells me the menopause is to blame!