Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Original poster

Does anyone else think its too much hassle?

83 replies

Gretais · 14/10/2019 10:22

Relationships!!!!
Never had a happy one!
I did some online dating omg what a load of oddbods. I really couldn't be bothered replying to the dumb messages.
I dont want all the hassle that comes with a relationship

OP posts:
fairydustandpixies · 14/10/2019 10:28

Yep, me!

Happily single for a few years now and have no intention for things to change! I love my no-drama, no-worrying life and long may it continue!

hellsbellsmelons · 14/10/2019 10:29

Yep - me too.
After ExH and ExP and couple of clingy men, I really cannot be asked any more.
I'm happy on my own.
I have a puppy to keep me amused and entertained. So much better than a man!

Original poster
Gretais · 14/10/2019 10:33

I also dont want to be involved in the intricacies of someone else's life it's dull

OP posts:
FizzyGreenWater · 14/10/2019 11:43

First it was trans fats, now it's trans people. What next?!

'FLORA BLAMED FOR GREASY WHEELS IN TRANSCONTINENTAL RAILWAY TRAGEDY'

MrsMaiselsMuff · 14/10/2019 11:45

Is Fizzy one of the OLD oddbods?

FizzyGreenWater · 14/10/2019 11:46

?? I don't know MrsM, what are the OLD oddbods??!

FizzyGreenWater · 14/10/2019 11:48

Oh hahaha I've posted on the wrong thread Grin as you were

Yes I am clearly an oddbod. And quite old, though not OLD.

tomboytown · 14/10/2019 11:56

I can’t bear the thought of another person in my life

thesuninsagittarius · 14/10/2019 14:27

I can't be arsed with another person in my life either.. I was married for nearly 30 years and put ex H and the kids first all the time.
Now I'm divorced, kids grown up and I'm so happy and content being on my own. I can do what I like and don't have to compromise. I'm 52 and feel too old and cynical to want another relationship. I suppose I have lost my trust that any man will be faithful, caring etc. Lots of friends I see when it suits us, so I'm fine as I am. I feel more and more these days that men are a completely different species and I don't ever want to share my space with one again.

Original poster
Gretais · 14/10/2019 17:29

Id love another child but i cant be arsed with a relationship to have one lol

OP posts:
MarianaMoatedGrange · 14/10/2019 17:35

I feel more and more these days that men are a completely different species

The older I get, the more I feel this too! Grin

Original poster
Gretais · 14/10/2019 18:49

I just cant be arsed. I barely fancy anyone either

OP posts:
RamsayBoltonsConscience · 14/10/2019 19:12

Me! Been single for 14 years and don't I'll ever be able to put up with someone else's shit ever again! I looked at OLD but nah... not for me.

Interestedwoman · 14/10/2019 19:19

Me too- CBA. There's plenty of other stuff to do.

Original poster
Gretais · 14/10/2019 19:20

How do people move from relationship to relationship? I can barely tolerate anyone lol

OP posts:
DreamCatcherOnTheRye · 14/10/2019 19:25

I think what I prefer might be a friend who ends up a DP, that way all that old mind games and song and dance about date no 1 and date no 2 doesn't take place.

I just want to go from meeting someone to comfy in pjs watching telly. I can't do "dating". The thought of it makes me want to go to bed already. 7 years alone here, single mum! Can't be arsed if it's too much of a hassle.

LondonCrone · 14/10/2019 20:51

Yessss this is exactly where I am. Got out of my marriage because my husband cheated, and suddenly the whole world was bright and beautiful — I have so much energy for the things I love when I’m not waiting anxiously to see whether he would be home of a Friday (the answer to this was mostly no)!!

Tonight I’ll eat a chocolate pudding and watch a spooky South Korean tv show, tomorrow I’ll wake up to my beautiful cats purring on my chest, and a ping on my phone or a text from my ex will have nothing to do with my quiet joy.

BLISS.

Would quite like a shag though haha!

Original poster
Gretais · 14/10/2019 20:55

Also meeting online its so fake isnt it? People are weird

OP posts:
tomboytown · 15/10/2019 12:04

Can't imagine anything worse than on line dating

MarianaMoatedGrange · 15/10/2019 12:14

Would quite like a shag though haha!

Me too! Grin

CBA to go looking for a FWB though. Is it worth it?

Orangepearl · 15/10/2019 13:04

Yep when your younger you believe in Knights, Disney, love and TV commercial familys.

When your older the younger ones glowing with their man is sooo wonderful makes me want to vomit and makes me think just you wait.

Miserable cynical old bitch I am. Do love cats though. What’s a witch without a cat?

hellsbellsmelons · 15/10/2019 13:05

Would quite like a shag though haha!
I dunno - I had one a few weeks back and it really wasn't all that!
I need a GOOD shag!

eenymeenyminyme · 15/10/2019 13:09

I think I've solved this one.

I was with ExH for 23 years til I kicked his selfish, lying, cheating arse out 5 years ago.

DP now is completely independent of me. We have our own houses, own finances, own lives, and when we're both free we see each other. Tends to be one evening at his a week, one at mine and 2 or 3 nights out a month. It's perfect - all the good points of a relationship and none of the bad ones!

Wouldn't suit everyone of course, but as I'm not looking to settle down again with anyone and we could both just walk away at any time but choose not to it's perfect for me.

hellsbellsmelons · 15/10/2019 13:11

eenymeenyminyme
I think that might suit the vast majority of us on here!

madcatladyforever · 15/10/2019 13:14

Permanently single here after two marrimages and sundry wankers.
Give me cats any day. Far less trouble.

Swipe left for the next trending thread