Does anyone else think its too much hassle?

[Gretais]

Relationships!!!!
Never had a happy one!
I did some online dating omg what a load of oddbods. I really couldn't be bothered replying to the dumb messages.
I dont want all the hassle that comes with a relationship

hellsbellsmelons

DP now is completely independent of me. We have our own houses, own finances, own lives, and when we're both free we see each other. Tends to be one evening at his a week, one at mine and 2 or 3 nights out a month. It's perfect - all the good points of a relationship and none of the bad ones!

Completely agree. This is how I've always done 'relationships'. Consequently I've had a lovely life ...

tomboytown
Can't imagine anything worse than on line dating

Oh come now, what a failure of the imagination!

Being stuck in a waiting room showing wall to wall Jeremy Kyle, without your phone
Getting stuck in a lift with 8 women who are attending a hen party
Getting stuck in a lift with members of the Tory Faithful
Having to repeat 500x per day "did you want that as a large meal or regular" without being incentivised for upsell

tbf online dating is grim

I love having my space and my own place but miss having someone special now and again.

Seeing someone a couple of times a week would suit me.

I don't miss the highs and lows of dating and the heart break though.

@eenymeenyminyme I have two friends with a set up like yours. One has been in a relationship like this for 25 years and the other is 8 years in, both ladies in their 60s. The one in the 8 year relationship is now making steps for them to merge their lives and live together. She's got a VERY good man, but has been burnt in the past so wanted to be cautious.

I admire them and definitely think it is a great solution. I've been on my own for a year now and love it. There are times when I do think it would be nice to have a partner to share things with and of course, I miss the sex, but I value myself too much now to waste time on a man. I CBA to do OLD, plus it kind of freaks me out with the thought of putting myself out there. I'm of the 'if it happens, it happens' school of thought, but if I met someone I'd definitely go down the route of not living together for a long time.

Furiousvexation- I’d do any of those things for an hour rather than go on a date with a stranger I’d met online, honest!

You sound like the problem here rather than the men your meeting.

Not getting along with anyone is a massive red flag. Bet your super weird in RL.

"I also dont want to be involved in the intricacies of someone else's life it's dull"

IKR!

what does IKR mean?

yes im weird and at peace with that

I think the only thing I really miss is when someone brings you a hot drink in bed. This seems to be the one thing you can’t replicate elsewhere- sex, money, social life.

But the cuppa in bed? Well seems that one can’t be done outside a relationship.

IKR = I Know Right!

The minutiae of my own life, and that of my elderly mum, is more than enough. No way could I cope with someone else's as well!

Bring back the , Lex.

I might be super weird, limpy. I can't bring myself to care very much.

I feel like this most of the time, but occasionally I surprise myself with the longing for other person, including last night, when I had a sudden bout of insomnia. Nothin that someone else snoring beside me would have necessarily made things better, I suppose. I need the part-time lover described above - just not sure how to get one.

Can't be bothered either. More trouble than they're worth. Like not having to clean up after someone else and dealing with their moodiness. Good sex would be nice but most are lazy and rubbish in bed. I wonder if hiring a good male escort would be worth it?

Rubbish link - should be Teasmade

But the cuppa in bed? Well seems that one can’t be done outside a relationship

Which is why the teasmade was invented! Can you still get them?

I’d like someone to take the bins out

My son makes me a cup of tea

i think the notion of spending so much time with someone for the rest of your life bizarre

Single for 5 and a half years now. I have a 6yo DS. I prefer being single. I really can't be arsed to cater to someone else's emotional needs as well as DS's.

I haven't completely written off relationships forever but I certainly won't be having one until DS is grown up and I do not want to ever live with a man again. If I never meet someone I won't be sad about it.

@madcatladyforever

And cats are beautiful and don’t get addicted to online porn, they are perfect, gorgeous, lovely company and innocent ....😻😻😻

Single for over 7 years, but have half heartedly tried OLD on and off over the past year. Had a few first dates and 1 second- but only to confirm there was no chemistry at all (he was a nice guy though). Off again now!

Yes.
Single a year now (1 relationship since exDH) and I’m okay with that. I don’t have any inclination to compromise my life with DCs and consider someone else’s needs and preferences. Love making all my own decisions. Yes there are moments when it’s hard, but not hard enough to be worth the hassle.

Just to add. My friend was cursing her husbands shoes in the hallway. I gdf

i think im too self absorbed for a relationship

Whoops! My friend was cursing her DH’s massive shoes cluttering her hallway. I have no massive shoes cluttering up my hallway.