Narcissistic ex

[Cheeypie]

Hi

Im new to the site, and looking for a new way to vent my anger.
I took my narcissistic Ex to court as he banded me and my partner talking my son on holiday abroad. I have never stopped him from seeiNg our son. He has our son alternate weekends with extra time in the holiday. In the court order it was stated no bad mouthing each other in front of our son but to be civil.

He hasnt made a CSA payment toward our son, still drives around in the car that i bought. Buys our son new toys each time that he comes back home Like pawpatrol. If i ask him to contribute towards school uniform, i get told i am controlling. Literally rubs my face in it. Kinda sounds like I'm after his money, But £5 toward t shirts i would be happy with. As it shows he is trying to contribute. Now he has gone self employed to dodge CSA payments.

However i just dont know how to cope, as he is deliberately making issues so i would get annoyed. But i dont want to vent in front of my son, as he is starting to pick up my annoyance.

How do other deal with difficult exs. I get periods every 2 weeks so hormones dont help. Ive stopped drinking as well as we are trying for a baby. I want to scream

Hi OP

We're just going to move this over to relationships for you.

Make sure you ask the csa to make sure they apply a variation to your case at the end of the tax year every year.

If he takes dividends from the company, this way they take these into account when calculating the monthly payment he should make.

If you don't ask them to apply a variation they won't and any dividends won't be included.

My ex went self employed to dodge csa payments also.