My boyfriend just told me that no one else wants me that's why he's stuck with me.

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I have a 11 week old baby too... I'm feeling so hurt. I didn't think words could get too me like this..

Well isn't he a prince amongst men.

So is this his first shitty act or does he have previous?

Your boyfriend is an arsehole! What makes him think he is so desirable then?

He's drunk. I've just gone to pick him up from the pub, and he started throwing abuse at me when he got back. He can be really horrible sometimes. I thought he might apologise once he had sobered up but nothing. 😩 as if it isn't wearing enough having a newborn. What makes it worse is he's been on night shifts for the last 3 nights and now this.. I'm so tired I really didn't need to be worn down anymore.

Makes no sense. He’d ‘let you go’ if someone else wanted you? It’d be hurtful if it wasn’t so dumb.

He’s a tit. You and your baby would be much better off without him.

Yeah it would only make sense if he meant no one else wanted him. The intent was to hurt you though so he's still a shit. Hopefully he's the type of drunk who goes straight to sleep and doesn't spend the rest of the night disturbing you

Your boyfriend or your now ex boyfriend? Surely it’s the latter?

You should post in relationships.
Basically he is an arse - and you'd be better off without him.
Do you have anyone who can support you?

You need rid of that one. You and the baby will do better without him. He's lying, by the way. It's a narcissist's line, often used. To keep you in your place, keep you humble and begging for his attention.

The only response to that is "when you've sobered up and thanked me for collecting your pissed up arse you can google projection. Then have a fucking long think about how you're gonna impress me into putting up with your sorry arse for another week"

Hes downstairs watching tv. I've taken me and bubs to bed. It's not the first time to be honest, I often feel like he gas lights me. But I have a tendency to brush things under the carpet.. this really got me tonight tho. We had a conversation earlier today and I explained I was feeling isolated and alone with our New born as I spend a lot of time alone where he works nights... so I think this is why this seems all the more hurtful.

Tell him he doesn't have to be 'stuck with you' and can fuck right off.
What a horrible pig to say that to the mother of his newborn child, Been single is much better than been with that drunk waster, Get rid!

How the fuck would he know if no one else wants you? My ex used to tell me that but I just told him that I didn't really care if I was single for the rest of my life if it meant not being belittled.
As it turned out I am not single but I did have a couple of very happy years with just my children.

Molly Button thank you. I'm going to see my mum tomorrow. Think I'll pack me and bubs up early and get away for a few days. Maybe he will think about what he's done. Probably not.

Disgusting man. I am furious just reading this. Get far away and leave him to stew.

Red flags all over: he's living a fun life whilst he gaslights you, hears you're isolated and provides no emotional support and tells you that no-one else wants you. All with you having a newborn and being at your most vulnerable you can be.

1. Keep awareness that you are vulnerable and do not trust him
2. Identity support in RL and share what is happening, trust their advice
3. Speak with Women's Aid

Forget him.

Prepare to become a single mother.

I'm sorry you have to deal with this shit.

Hardly far to use that against you. I bet you do a lot for him aswell? Maybe stop doing things for him until he can learn to appreciate you You need to tell him how hes acting is hurting you otherwise he'll believe its acceptable to do!Hope you feel better soon.
Do you have a support network around you?

Thank you girls. I think maybe it's time for me to get out of this relationship.. as I do think i am being emotionally abused but have spent so long brushing it under the carpet. I just feel for my little girl as I've bought her into this toxic relationship

This behaviour will only get worse, he's using the one time you are vulnerable, sleep deprived, lonely and probably feeling a little bit self conscious to make you feel even worse, it's the oldest trick in the book, make you feel like a peice of crap on his shoe so you are grateful that he would 'put up with you'. That way you are kept in your place, won't breath a word out of line, do as your told and let him behave any which way he likes incase the only man that would 'put up with you' leaves.
He should be supporting you, not pissing it up and making you feel like crap, he's a tosser, leave him.

So you told him you feel isolated and alone and he fucked off to the pub?
What a cock.

Abusive men often escalate once the woman is pregnant and especially after baby is born.

Do you have any family nearby?

Nasty bastard! Get rid.

Sorry you are in this situation. Can you go to your moms and stay there until you can get yourself set up.

And don’t beat yourself up. It may not have been the best idea to bring a child into your toxic relationship (as you said), but it would be much worse to stay in one. You and your little girl can absolutely have a fabulous life so don’t settle for a shit relationship.

Get. Rid. Now.

You are amazing. Look after you and your baby

What an awful thing to say

Hope you’re ok and no it’s not alright. fwiw I’m a dad.