My boyfriend just told me that no one else wants me that's why he's stuck with me.

[Firstbab]

I have a 11 week old baby too... I'm feeling so hurt. I didn't think words could get too me like this..

Can I just say, that if you begin to doubt yourself remember that many children grow up to mimic their parents so if you don't take control you may be condemning your daughter to the same experiences later in life.

As Belfield said, this line is classic of abusers.

Wishing you strength for the future.
He sounds horrible. You don't need that kind of shit in your life and your baby certainly doesn't.
Much better for you baby girl to spend her time with you as a single mum than to be exposed to dreadful behaviour from this man.

Tell him to feck off in the direction of off and stick your middle finger up to him . X

What a charmer. He sure knows how to make a gal feel good, doesn't he?

You've recently given birth to his child, ffs, and he qualifies as the most insensitive twat on the planet if he believes that what he said to you is in any way normal or acceptable.

Take your baby and other precious possessions and decamp to your parents. Don't contact him; wait to see if he contacts you and when/if he does tell him that you've got no intention of staying in a relationship with a man who doesn't value you as his life partner and as the mother of his child.

There's no coming back from this. You'll never forget those words or the way they made you feel when you heard them and you'll always be waiting for him to say them, or very similar to them, again.

Are you living in rented/mortgaged/owned property and whose name is on the tenancy agreement/mortgage/deeds?

I pray to God you leave this absolute shit

This is not the life you want for you and your wee baby

If he can be so heartless and cruel now when you've just had his child .... god knows what he'll be like further down the line if you stay

You deserve sooo much more than this. And so does your wee baby x

Agree with the person that mentioned narcissists. Notice it was 'all the more hurtful' because you'd had a chat with him earlier that had exposed your vulnerabilities. Narcissists like to kick you all the harder when you are down. It was basically a red flag to a bull.

He's a vile man and it would be detrimental to raise your child in a househould with him. In time he'll crush her self-esteem too. And play her off against you.

So if you can't find the strength to leave for you, find the strength to leave for her.

Basically he is actually saying no one else would want him, so hes trying to destroy your confidence and keep you with him.
You and baby need to get away from this man and I use that term loosely.

Your amazing and have one of the hardest jobs in the world being a parent.
Goodluck and leave this poor excuse of a human.

Please leave him

That is a text book abuser line. He is also projecting his feelings onto you.
If you stay I guarantee you it will get worse and worse.
He will whittle your self esteem and confidence away, brain wash you into believing his bullshit.
Don't put your little baby girl through this, protect her from any abuse.
Go to your parents and then sort a new life out for you and your baby.
Good luck.

Awh this is awful😫

Hi @Firstbab - what happened? Did you go to your Mum's?

I hope you and bubs got far away from this horrible excuse for a man.

I'm sure your anxiety will improve once he stops chipping away at your self esteem. Vile pig.

No one ever deserves to listen to people putting them down. Your answer is Fuk off then. Don’t accept this you are better than that. He clearly thinks he can talk to you like shit now you have his child. Don’t be upset as this is him being a cunt it isn’t about you he wants you to think you only ever have him he is trying to keep you taking shit and believing no one else have you

Please dump this piece of shit immediately !!! Ive been told that too by an abusive ex. What he says is not true at all. You will be ok. You don't need this bastard.

I would say ‘no need to be stuck with me’ I’m off

Really feeling for you right now

Believe me, it will only get worse! My relationship started out very similar and quickly developed into something I no longer recognised. I didn't even recognise myself by the end of it. 6 years we stayed together and what a miserable 6 years it was! Don't wait for your daughter to be old enough she's deeply affected by all the negativity.

Does he act like this when he is sober?