My boyfriend just told me that no one else wants me that's why he's stuck with me.

[Firstbab]

I have a 11 week old baby too... I'm feeling so hurt. I didn't think words could get too me like this..

Run! Or change the locks... It isn't going to end well.

Urgh. Disgusting behaviour. Please save yourself and the little one whilst she's young enough not to have to witness his disgraceful treatment of her mother. I'm sorry this is happening to you at a time that should be happier, but please realise that this is not normal, or healthy. Great idea to go stay with your mum, take some time out with someone who really does love you, and work out a plan to lose this pathetic excuse of a man.

You’re the one that can’t get anybody, aye right! You know that saying about we say hurtful things to others that really apply to ourselves, well in this case nobody would have HIM. He’s just got the sentence the wrong way round as he’s an arse.

Congrats on the baby, you have a good time at your mums being spoiled, which is what you deserve with a little one.

Empty the frozen TV dinners out the freezer before you go and bin the bread and milk.....

Yes I am lucky that i am close to both of my perants. I would have support around me if I need it. My trouble is I suffer from general anxiety and this sort of thing tips me over the edge. You'd never know by looking at me, I come across very strong minded.. But inside I'm struggling. I think this is why Im getting walked all over, as I'd rather forgive and forget so it kurbs the anxiety.. so of course he then gets away with treating me badly.

We're moving this to relationships for you, OP.

You're the only one who can get bubs out too. You and her deserve better OP.

It's not going to get any better. You need to summon all of your strength and support and leave him.

It will only get harder, go now and don't look back. You are worth more than this and you owe it your child to set an example of self respect and how relationships should be. Don't make this your child's normallity.

Iv finally just had my children's dad arrested and charged for a controlling. Cohesive and abusive relationship- I'm still going through it as he's awaiting sentencing!

Please just go! It'll hurt for now but you'll be fine. He started like this an then it slowly gets physical if it's not already. Then you'll just slowly get more and more trapped and isolated to the point of phones been checked an tracked , taking and controlling you money, mentally abusing you everyday the list of possibilities that can happen is endless

Speaking from my experience. If this isn't the first time it won't be the last and if he knows he's upset you he will do it more. They thrive of it
I'm due to give birth any day now with 2 children under 5 as it is, don't leave it as long as I did and get trapped the way I did. If you can leave and don't have ties like mortgage and loads of kids etc just go make you and your bubs happy.

Show Your DD what she should expect from a man. And show your DS what man he should grow up to be.
Don't set an example for them you don't want them to be or settle down for themselves. Just because you settle for less- I genuinely remind myself this everyday as I miss my ex like crazy and love him we was together from been 17 but you need to protect your children xxxx

Ha ha ha op... he had no idea if anyone else wants you because you’re not out there and available... until now! Don’t be “stuck with him” you can do so much better. Seriously he’s playing the game of Do you down so you’ll be grateful he’s with You. Sod that op!

I had an ex tell me that the only reason he slept with me, was because he knew nobody else would.. straight after my first time!

Dumped that guy and met my now husband straight after.

I hope you can do the same OP

He's a vile selfish arrogant bastard isn't he OP

Leave him.

Good luck Lady and Bubs

Oh wow! Do these guys buy a script?

I heard very similar. You and your baby will be much better without this sad excuse for a human being in your lives

While you are at your parents house write down the things he has said and done so that you keep them fresh in your memory.
Then when you weaken you can recall exactly why you are a single parent.

Have a great relaxing time being looked after by people who love you for who you are.

Firstbab you can do this. Pack a bag for you and a bag for bub and go. Don't think, just do it and go to your mum's.

Horrible man. You deserve so much better than this. Don't waste anymore time on this shit. I bet your anxiety will be much better once you kick him to the kerb.

Thank you everyone. This is the first-time I have used mums net. It's really helpful being being able to talk about it. I hope that I can take sometime out and talk through with my mum what to do next. As I know your right I can't continue down this path. It's only going to get worse. I know I deserve someone who will give as much love back in return. Hopefully I can be strong enough to do what's best for my baby.

Please go to your parents and talk this through with them. You need help building yourself up to get away from this dreadful man. You and your baby would be better on your own. Imagine your child growing up with the same treatment- being made to feel worthless... Get him away from such a bad role model.

You deserve love back from a new partner in the future, but for now you need safety and love for DD and you with your family. Good luck

This is abuse and this is only the beginning. You will only suffer more as time goes on if you stay with him.
Leave now and give yourself a chance at a happy future. Anyone that speaks to their partner and mother of their child like that is a nasty piece of work and an absolute plank of knob-cheese of the highest order. Urgh.

Tired, angry, drunk or sober, no one who loves and respects you says that to you. Take your baby and go where you are loved and respected

Yes do go to stay with your mum. Tell her what’s going on and get some support.

The best path you can take for you and your baby is to make plans to improve your life without him dragging you down. A partner should most definitely be the person you can count on to care for you, carry you if needed, and the one to want the best for you always. It doesn’t sound as though this man will do it for you. Move away now while you still have the motivation and energy to do so.

Try to take all important info with you if you can. Passports, car details, baby’s red book etc. Just in case...

OP, it's not nice to hear but this man is abusive. Be aware that he may react badly if he sees you being more independent. When you go to your mums, take important stuff with you (like bank card, birth certificate, any benefits letters etc) Try and find the Freedom Programme near you, your HV will know how to help you.

That’s a really, really good point about taking documents with you, and indeed anything you value (whether it not it has financial value- I have 50p clip earrings that were my grans, be gutted if someone threw them out)

This is a standard line used by abusive people.