Myself and my ex broke up six months ago. Together for three years. The break was mutual however I never wanted it but she seemed to lose interest and stopped wanting to see me, so I felt almost backed into a corner and could see no other way but to break up after she suggested we ‘couldn’t go on like this’ any longer.
After breaking up we stopped contacting, however we have kept in touch on and off over the past few months with both of us initiating contact.not long after the break up I asked to meet, talk, try again all to no avail. She would then very often deliberately ignore me, sometimes for months until she would reappear out of the blue, then disappear again and ignore my reply. I know she has been chatting to another guy since. This guy appears to have many girls that he ‘likes’. He seems a player. And talking to many girls at once. I’m really suprised she even considers a guy like this. But what do I know.
A few weeks ago we got talking again and she seemed a lot more open , asking me what I’m upto, and seemed a lot more engaging. We got talking about the break Up,she told me how upset she was at the end (so was I) and that I made her feel trapped about breaking up and very upset. I was very taken back by this and it completely broke me when she told me this. I didn’t realise this. She never told me. I still don’t know the reasons why she lost interest. I tried for months towards the end to do new things, get the spark back etc and it worked when we were together but it dropped again because she wouldn’t come out again. She told me she remembers the good times but couldn’t forget the bad at the end. I told her I still like her and if I could change things I would, she asked me if I was trying to say I wanted to try again. I told her I wanted to meet up and chat. I asked her out for a meal/ drink.
She told me she wasn’t sure and that she would neeed the think and let me know at the end of the day.she told me she felt confused.
She got back in touch bit didn’t mention meeting up so I had to ask again the next day, to which she replied she didn’t know yet and she doesn’t want to say yes to get my hopes up or say no and regret it…..
She told me she will know when she knows….(how’s longs a piece of string?) but we could keep on talking.
Initially we have been talking, sometimes she replies quick, other times she will ignore me for hours and then reply. This I find quite rude. She has, howveer become more open and instead of being cold towards she seems to be more open and jokey. Which is good I guess. It’s been two weeks now since this now and I’m beginning to think she has no intentions on meeting with me. Her last reply to me took two days for her to reply after I said she has to feel right in meeting up, after I jokingly put in about meeting up again becuaee nithing had been mentioned.
I also see her liking pics of other guys and I still think she is talking to this other guy.
I’m confused by her behaviour, what should I do?
Any help appreciated thankyou.