cheating?

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My DH goes supermarket shopping on a Sunday, and more than once he has come back with his shirt open at the bottom (to me, like he had tucked it in whilst seated). I think he is getting a bj of a prostitute in Asda car park or something. Writing this makes me feel pretty ridiculous, but I know what I saw. I can't follow him as he will see me. What's left? If I track his car, it will probably only show him at the supermarket anyway. What to do?

Unless there are other signs, you are definitely crazy overthinking this OP

So that’s what an Asda Rollback is?

Interesting post OP

This place has really gone to the dogs recently.

That’s quite the leap OP, with no context other than the details in your post it sounds utterly batshit & would, if anyone said this
IRL make me very concerned for the state of their mental health. It is extremely unlikely.

Is there anything at all that has given you any reason at all to think this? Are you generally prone to extreme and wildly imaginative bouts of paranoia or jealousy? Have you read about Othello syndrome - it’s a condition which causes delusional paranoia and pathological jealousy, your post (again, unless there is a lot more context) sounds a lot like it..

Lastly, who on earth wears a shirt on a Sunday. Especially to an Asda?

So that’s what an Asda Rollback is?

Thanl you to the people who responded kindly. To those of you using the internet to be nasty about me and name call - you might care to think there is a real live person behind the message. As someone said - i am backing myself. Mental illness or not.

You still haven't addressed the core issue here. I don't think you're crazy, but I'm struggling to understand how:

shirt open at bottom

blowjob from prostitute in a supermarket car park

I could understand this fully if you told us you had found a prostitute's number in your partner's phone, or he had form for doing this before, etc. But without any other info, there is nothing to correlate these 2 things.

As for backing weirdly specific hunches, that could end up going in any direction. An ex of mine was convinced I was having an affair with someone who I had never even met, never mind had any kind of relationship with. She too was 100% convinced in her own beliefs, but she was also insecure, jealous and possessive. Unfortunately those traits do little to dispel paranoia.

Well, i go to Asda every Sunday for shopping and sex. I leave my door open and a delightful lady of the t leans in and gives me a golly good servicing before tottering off to the next chap. She does a roaring trade i tell you! And the glory of it all is my good lady wife gets to put her feet up with a cup of tea and chocolate biscuit.

I think every Asda should have one. I hear the ones at Waitrose are even more upmarket and you can get your groceries delivered at the same time.

Brilliant PP!

I reckon he has a nice relaxed poo when he goes to Asda. No kids running around, no wife accusing him of getting sucked off etc.

Poor guy. you sound unhinged. Therapy might work

All joking aside, I’m sure he’d have been arrested by now if that’s what he was up to!

You sound paranoid and unstable. He shouldn’t have to pay for the mistakes of others. If you don’t cut this out you’re going to lose him I guarantee that!!

Toilet, carrying shopping bags, reaching up the shelves, stealing by shuvving it down his pants, having a fight with a koala bear.

All things I would assume before BJ in a car park.

OP I know you said you are backing yourself, but I honestly think you have to let this go. From what you have described, it is highly unlikely he is doing what you suspect he is. Just go with him to Asda next sunday and see how it happens!

BJ BOGOF?

My DH goes supermarket shopping on a Sunday, and more than once he has come back with his shirt open at the bottom (to me, like he had tucked it in whilst seated). I think he is getting a bj of a prostitute in Asda car park or something.

Yes, that’s definitely the only rational explanation.

OP, please seek therapy and/or medication. I say that as someone with mental health problems. Treatment will help you not be so, erm, suspicious, which will lead to you feeling a lot better and more relaxed. It will also help stop your state of mind from effecting your relationships with those around you.

Hugs xxx

This is why I don't shop in Asda.

You will have to offer to do it one week and see his reaction. He might have been to the loo? I always need the loo half way round the shop! Is there anything else you have noticed.? Ignore all the sarcasm from people on this thread, sometimes you just need to ask for your piece of mind.

I dint thinknive ever come across such nasty judgemental people - although some have made me laugh lots - especially the Waitrose one!!!

You calling the posters on here judgemental is hilarious considering you see an unbuttoned shirt and jump to the conclusion your fella is not only a cheating scumbag but also paying for it.

Dump him if that's how little you think of him.

Asda shuts at 4 on a Sunday.

There has to be more to this than DH coming home with his shirt askew. What's made you think he's cavorting with sex workers in a supermarket carpark. I suppose you could ask to view the CCTV.

Blimey, prostitutes hang around Asda carparks?!