One night stand. Married.

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I met a guy on the Internet. I was so blinded at that time I only wanted to feel again free and careless. Please do not judge me, i tortured myself to hell afterwards.
The point is that at period my mother passed away then my father. And I was in a kind of delirium. I only wanted to fell free and alive again not taking into account my dear family. BTW I do not live in England but my education was British.

So what is it you want us to say?

I forgot to say that I hate myself now.

Has it all blown up? Is there a chance your family will find out?

Thank you. My DH knows, because I told him: 🤔And he forgave me. But still I think it was a mistake.

What is it you would like to get from posting this thread? Not a critical question, but it’s not clear from your original post whether you just wanted to confess here or get responses.

You think it was a mistake? Well there you go then, you'll hopefully learn from it and not do it again.

If your DH has forgiven you maybe it's best to try and move on together.

Why did you tell your husband?

Do you want out of your marriage and hoped he'd take the bull by the horns and end it?

I think it was really unfair to tell him. You probably did it to unburden yourself, but all you've done is hurt him and made the fuck up live in your marriage.

Seek counselling and stop punishing yourself.

Thank you Rivkka yes

Do you wish your husband hadn’t forgiven you?

You want my real question: OK do you know or have you been the cheater. For women only, because I searched here and found only man cheaters?

Anne I love my husband.

MN is currently full of people admitting to affairs.

Selfish to have had the affair and equally selfish to tell husband.
and now seem to be looking for sympathy.

Sympathy yes, wy :) Empathy

Can you answer why you told your husband?

Yes I'm a woman, yes I've cheated. What's your point?

How did you feel afterward? Was it just once or many times?

Yes I've cheated. But (not thatit's any excuse) most of the time it was when I was somehow unhappy in a relationship. Usually I was working my way up to leaving.

Forgive yourself OP. You were in a bad time. It makes us do terrible things.

@AnneLovesGilbert are you perfect ?

Many times, I'm having an affair, we meet often. I'm in love with him.

I have my reasons but they aren't excuses

Seriously, the MN attitude towards women admitting and committing affairs is vile. When it's a man he is sworn at by users and there is no sympathy.

I doubt very much you love your husband if you went and slept with someone else and quite frankly, no you do not deserve sympathy.

Honestly, this website sometimes, just shocking.

If OP hadn't told her husband then every single response would be to tell him so he knows who he's married to and can decide if he wants to stay married.

@MorrisZapp Not really, if you find other threads you'll be shocked to see how many people advise not to tell and continue to lie. They barely show any care for the man in the relationship.

There are always a few who say to tell the husband and they also point out the stark difference of the responses from women when it's a woman that is the one who is committing or has committed an affair.

No sympathy from me, you cheated on the man you love 💁‍♀️