Has anyone left DH/DW before starting relationship with loved one?

[StrangeDays78]

Just that really.

I’m married, so is the guy I have fallen in love with.

Has anyone tried to do this the honourable way and both of you leaving your partners before anything happens, even a kiss?

In your experience, would a guy never leave his DW unless he was having a physical relationship with the new partner?

She didnt say angry, she said nasty. Angry was my word, my freudian slip if you like. Decent people get angry, but they dont get nasty.

I left my first husband for my second husband. Wasn't particularly honourable or anything on my part (my second husband was single so it was different for him) but realising my feelings for 'the other man' were more than friendship meant that my marriage was effectively over anyway. I did cheat (kissing) but the crossover was about two weeks, so it didn't go on for a long time and I ended my marriage quickly.

You need to leave your marriage anyway, it's over. Regardless of whether the OM has any feelings for you (which let's face it, you're just speculating about anyway), it's your feelings that mean the marriage is over. Will it work out with the new man? Probably not, mostly it doesn't, but it's sort of irrelevant at this stage.

For me it did work out, I'm now happily married to the other man and we have two (and three quarters - I'm pregnant now) lovely children together. My ex husband never found out there was any crossover and is also happily remarried. This isn't generally the outcome in these situations though and I was very lucky.

She didnt say angry, she said nasty. Angry was my word, my freudian slip if you like. Decent people get angry, but they dont get nasty.

Anger often leads to nastiness. The Baird here have loads of threads where the women want to punish the man for leaving.

Loads of decent people find that divorce breeds anger and then turns into nastiness.

Loads of decent people find that divorce breeds anger and then turns into nastiness.

Most often when there are other issues involved. With no cheating and no fuckwittery if the spouse left turns nasty, then they were never decent to start with.

Even so, I and many pps raise an eyebrow at the level of revenge suggestions posted here sometimes. I wouldn't class those pps as decent. Just nasty.

My exh wrote similar things to you, to his mistress, during his affair: that he was afraid of "ending up alone". He wasn't prepared to leave me straight away, in case his OW might not leave her husband. That's why, instead, he dragged out the affair for more than a year, making it more and more obvious, probably in the hope that I would work it out and take the decision off his hands. I obligingly did so. Personally (with an obvious bias), I see this as selfish cowardice on his part that had unpleasant side efects for me, the children and even his affair partner. I found it really hard to see why she stayed with him for 4 years knowing that he was only with her because I found out and ended it.

Why wouldn't you leave first? Like seriously is this a joke thread or are you really that disrespectful of your current partner????

Honestly I think some people were brought up in a gutter with no common sense....

My husband hasn’t been a perfect husband. He has physically cheated on me.

Well two wrongs obviously make a right, yes?
You both either sound like gems or you just threw that in there to chuck a childish "but but but he did it so why not me" tantrum.. Either way you all sound pretty awful.

I think you need to come back to the real would and stop living in a Mills and Boon fantasy.