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This isn't love

88 replies

RollNButter · 02/10/2019 12:13

I'm fed up , miserable and lonely,
This wasn't the plan.
We was supposed to move into this house and start afresh but turned out all to be lies.

My main issue is my partner doesn't sleep next to me at night he doesn't even stay here he just turns up early morning. I have so much love for him but it's not being returned.

I want to get away but I have no where to go , I've got 3 children. If I leave we will be homeless and I can't put my children through that. I feel like I'm stuck here miserable for the rest of my life.

I know I made the mistake by even giving this a second go I've truly fucked everything. I will never be happy. My life will never be what I hoped it would be. I know I deserve more but that will never happen now because I'm his and he will never let me go.

OP posts:
Bluntness100 · 03/10/2019 16:40

No you're not. Phone the council for emergency accommodation. It does get easier from here. Or phone shelter, they will advise you.

You don't need to be with someone who treats you so so badly.

RollNButter · 03/10/2019 16:43

I have 1% phone battery and NO credit. Women's aid closed . On door step with 3kids

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hellsbellsmelons · 03/10/2019 16:57

Is there a police station nearby?
If so then go there.
Tell them what has happened.
They will let you use their phone or help with charging yours.
How far away are your local council offices?

hellsbellsmelons · 03/10/2019 16:57

Do your neighbours know you at all?
Could you go and see if one of them can help with charging your phone?

Whatisthisfuckery · 03/10/2019 17:30

Fucking hell, I can’t believe what I’m reading here.

Go to the council, and if it’s closed got the the police station. Don’t leave until they sort you out.

You need to get away from this fucking arsehole, far, far away. He’s effectively keeping you as a mistress and abusing you at the same time, and if that’s his house you’re living in then effectively it’s half his wife’s if they split.

Good luck. I hope you find a safe place to stay. Fucking hell, shit, I can’t quite believe I’m reading this. What a piece of shit he is.

Supergrassyknoll · 04/10/2019 10:57

I'm worried about you, are you ok? X

sallynoballs · 07/10/2019 16:30

Are you okay?

RollNButter · 09/10/2019 22:19

Hello everyone, so sorry I didn't reply, just managed to sort my phone out and let you all know we are safe and well.
Thankyou for the advice.

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Perunatop · 09/10/2019 22:28

This is a very sad story but your situation is the result of the choice you made to go ahead and have a baby with a man you had only known a few months, when you had already been adandoned by the father of your first child. Your priority now needs to be your 3 children. Chasing this man who is married to someone else is a waste of time.

MoanerLeaser · 09/10/2019 22:33

Butter, I think this is one of the most shocking threads I've read on here. This man is abusive and insane.

You need to focus on making a plan. What do you feel you need to do first?

CandyLeBonBon · 09/10/2019 22:39

I'm not sure what I've just read but it's chaotic and toxic that's for sure.

RollNButter · 09/10/2019 22:59

@Perunatop Sorry but no where did I say I was abandoned by the father of my daughter and also I'm not chasing anybody.

Thank you all who gave me helpful advice.
I did check in just to let you know I'm ok and safe as I had abandoned the thread for a few days as my phone and other things needed to be sorted out. Don't be alarmed if I don't reply I can assure you everything is better now x

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BumbleBeee69 · 09/10/2019 23:00

OP did you leave Flowers

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