Fight or flight

[Mercier1]

Has anyone experienced this in a partner? Walking out on the family for a few hours in a rage/temper with potentially suicidal thoughts. It’s a manifestation of my DH mental health issues (severe depression) and it really worry’s me.

Only in extreme circumstances but not suicidal.

I have had severe depression living with an abusive narcissist. I would take myself off to get away from him and I felt suicidal when he moved his mother in with us. Long story!
Did he come from an abusive background?
What has triggered the depression and suicidal thoughts?
Is he getting help? Medication, counselling? Does he have addictions? Does he open up to you?
My daughter uses a 1-5 scale on depression with her BF so she can gauge how depressed he is in a day. (His mum's just died of cancer). There was a documentary a few weeks ago on suicide on t.v, you might be able to see it on Catch up.
I know from my PoV I would go off to get much needed space and I had to get away from my narc ex and his even worse mother, so that i didn't do anything stupid!

He’s defo not living with a narc (I hope).
He has no past traumas.
He describes wanting to turn life off, vanish, go missing etc. It’s incredibly difficult as we have a very young family and he’s unable to work so we are now in a really precarious situation.
I feel really alone with it so I guess reaching out here for insight.