I want to marry partner doesn't see point

[Bringiton2019]

Hi All

I've been with my partner for 21 months, love him unconditionally and would marry him in a heartbeat.

I'm divorced since December but deep down I should never have married ex, although we have 2 beautiful children (aged 7 & 9) together so I'm not going to regret that.

My partner has 2 older children (aged 15 & 17) and has never been married. He doesn't see the point. He loves me and is totally committed but I can't help feeling rejected because he's not wanting to get married!!

Am I being unreasonable??

I’m genuinely confused though, Rainbow, as you’ve also said this:

I don't really want to get married, I have a substantial inheritance left by different members of my family, it is mine and I don't think anyone should get 50% "just because". We have a mortgage and a baby, to me that's enough commitment.

Which is it? You actively don’t want to be married because of the implications to your financial position, but you want the law to treat you as if you are?

I wouldn’t marry again as my finances couldn’t stand another battering after the last divorce. Much as I love my partner, I just couldn’t take the risk of us separating.

I don't live with my DP, I might at some point in the future when DC are older, but I'm not sure I'd get married again, if I did I'd need some very unromantic and watertight legal work done first.

My divorce ruined years of careful financial planning, having to buy my ex out of the FMH, solicitors bills etc. I wouldn't let romantic notions of marriage put me at risk of having to go through that again.