DH has been wearing my clothes

[Ollypops14]

I write here because ive got nobody else to confide in . I have recently noticed my clothes missing or left in places i did not put them . I have till now just put it down to having a teenage daughter , you know what there like for borrowing things and not putting them back.
DH has been off work recently due to ill health . Which means hes been home alot.
I was sent home from work Monday with tummy bug so i came home earlier than expected .Omg there he was in my Dress !!

i dont even know what to feel he said its a one off , a joke but im so upset

I think OP is long gone, but the point is we know some cross dressing is the start of a spiral downwards into full blown AGP. Possibly some isn't. All most of us are suggesting OP does is look into it carefully - the "yay kink is harmless" voices and the "this is scarily like the first signs of my husband's AGP" voices.

Because women are always under immense pressure to view their partner's unacceptable behaviour as harmless, and to view marriage as something to be "worked on" (which, interestingly, always seems to translate as the woman doing the work and learning to tolerate the intolerable).

It is up to OP - but I want her to know that if this behaviour that she's just discovered (because one thing that is beyond doubt and not up for interpretation in this thread is that her husband has been hiding this behaviour from her) is not acceptable to her, she's allowed to say so. If she wants, she's allowed to say "non-negotiable boundary - stop this or I leave." She does not have to be cool with it. She does not have to be tolerant about it.

Just because some women live with it doesn't mean all women have to.

(Incidentally, yesterday a bloke walked past me in the street wearing a typically blokey polo shirt and a rather fetching sarong type tie-dyed skirt. That was fine. It was a hot day, he looked very comfortable, he was rocking the look. It's a million miles away from trying on your wife's clothing on the sly.)

Excellent post, Barbara.

have none of you seen David Beckham in a skirt?

Yes. It was in the media. He wanted the attention. It was a fashion statement.

I agree that stereotypes need to be smashed, so men can wear frocks to work if that's what they want to do.

This isn't what is happening to the OP though is it!

Her husband thought she was out and tried her clothes on in a sneaky and deceptive manner. He was also definitely wanking.

It's not like he has gone to M&S and picked out a blouse and skirt to go to work in.