I went out for some drinks with my husband and when we got back to the hotel I was acting a little silly (probably appearing drunker than I was). When he thought I was asleep he did stuff to me sexually (penis in my mouth, fingers in both holes, hands in my mouth and he came over my face). I was frozen with fear, at first I wondered how far he would go and then I was terrified what he would do if I let on I knew what was happening. He definitely knew I was asleep and he checked my eyes 4 times (tried to open one). After he came on my face he wiped me down, then turned the light on to wake me up and get me properly into bed, acting all caring. Once we were back in bed he continued to put his fingers in my mouth and penetrate me with his fingers.
I have a baby and not many options to leave. If I confront he will deny this until his last breath. I was thinking of collecting evidence (video) and using it to help me move forward, either to confront and address this as an issue or if it goes sour to protect me during the divorce. Is this rape? Would you stand for it? Should I go down the video route? Having a baby makes this much more complicated, if I didn't have have him I would leave in a second.