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Dp and wart??!!!

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Imadivvycow · 09/09/2019 12:10

He deffo has a genital wart it's so obvious, yet neither of us have bought it up , I just find the whole hpv/,herpes virus confusing as it's one that lays dormant for so long. I figured it's just one of those things , I'm now panicking as I've been sleeping with him I'm going to catch them aren't I 😭 I thought I'd be safe as he doesn't seem concerned , I need to bring it up with him don't I, I'm so stupid but figured he would be dealing with his health side of things , I'm panicking now and don't know how to broach it with him , don't just want to blurt it out and upset him ...

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ALoadOfTwaddle · 09/09/2019 12:13

Crikey. Don't sleep with him when he has an active wart or you will catch it.

I think herpes is a different thing but I'm not sure. Have you googled it?

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Imadivvycow · 09/09/2019 12:15

Yea I have googled , we have been sleeping together 6 months now 😬

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Imadivvycow · 09/09/2019 12:16

I believe the herpes virus causes warts as what I have read on Google , it's all sod confusing as it brings hpv into it aswell and now I'm.cacking myself I've got bloody hpv

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RushianDisney · 09/09/2019 12:17

I would avoid having sex until he has been to a doctor. You can't just ignore it, unless you also want to be lumbered with a potentially life long STD

PennyBlossom1 · 09/09/2019 12:18

You need to discuss it with him as you shouldn't be having unprotected sex whilst he has active warts. You can also get HPV from someone who shows no symptoms. Lots of people have HPV and don't even know, don't make a huge issue out of it but definitely have a chat OP

aintnutinchanged · 09/09/2019 12:19

If he has warts then yes u r going to get it/have it (the virus) for ever now I would go get checked out and send him also!!

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Imadivvycow · 09/09/2019 12:26

I just didn't want to accuse him incase it's you know just a birth Mark or something and figured he would have told me otherwise but after thinking about it im worrying now ..

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Doormat247 · 09/09/2019 12:31

You really need to talk to him and persuade him to go to the clinic and get it frozen off.
They won't do anything for you unless you're displaying symptoms yourself though, but you'll likely have caught them :/

bluebluezoo · 09/09/2019 12:40

I believe the herpes virus causes warts as what I have read on Google , it's all sod confusing as it brings hpv into it aswell and now I'm.cacking myself I've got bloody hpv

No. Herpes and hpv/warts are two completely different viruses.

Stop panicking. You both need to go to the sexual health clinic or your GP and get properly diagnosed and checked. Ffs talk to him about it!

And i hate to say it, but if it is a wart, he knows he has warts and is still having unsafe sex, he may have other std’s. Get a full screen.

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Imadivvycow · 09/09/2019 12:42

I had a full screen a month after we started sleeping together and it came back all clear ?

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SonataDentata · 09/09/2019 12:43

So much misinformation on this type of thread yet again. It does my head in. There are two types of HSV (herpes virus) and hundreds of HPV viruses, some of which cause warts and some of which may eventually lead to cervical cancer. Please seek advice from a doctor (disclaimer: I’m not one) or a reputable health website.

justilou1 · 09/09/2019 12:45

Herpes is a different virus, but genital warts are the same virus that cause cervical cancer. You need to both go and see an STI clinic.

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Imadivvycow · 09/09/2019 12:49

I shall sit down and try and mention it tonight 😬

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CatPunsFreakMeowt · 09/09/2019 12:50

So he’s had it the whole time you’ve been sleeping together? He really needs to go to a dr and get it checked out.

Tiredtessy · 09/09/2019 12:52

HPV Is linked to warts but still unclear exactly how it all works, has he got more than 1? I thought you got multiple warts but it hugely contagious!

SleepyKat · 09/09/2019 12:56

You need to bring it up.

When me and (now) dh got together he had a wart down there. I very bluntly said “what’s that, have you got herpes and am I going to catch it”.

He assured me he’d been to the GP who had told him it wasn’t genital warts. Can’t remember if it was a wart on his genitals but wasn’t genital warts (which sounds bizarre) or wasn’t a wart. But he seemed honest, and I certainly never caught anything.

So yes, talk to him.

Yolanda888 · 09/09/2019 12:58

I have genital warts. I caught them when I was17 after unprotected sex. They are disgusting. I do not have hpv so it isn't everyone that gets hpv my cells have been checked many times. I have dealt with abnormal smears for the past 10 years although my doctor said it can be down to smoking so I gave up and got my first clear smear last year 🙂. So anyways about the warts. I have never just had ONE wart. Always always come up in clusters.i have a friend that also has them and she is the same when she Flair's she really Flair's. I use aldara cream three times a week to keep them at Bay and they are ok now. Maybe twice a year sometimes more I get a flair up when the clusters will go and I end up in alot of pain and itching . Most of the time I forget I have them. If your partner only has one it may be a skin tag or something and not a wart?

duvetsay · 09/09/2019 13:00

Like 70% of the population have it and are unaware. It's not a huge deal

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Imadivvycow · 09/09/2019 13:05

It's literally one that I have seen/noticed and like I said he may have had it for life and could just be a mole or something altho I'm pretty sure it is a wart 🙄 unless it's verucca 😨

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MrsHardbroom · 09/09/2019 14:21

As others have said:
Warts are caused by a virus called HPV.
There are multiple types (strains) of HPV. The majority of cervical cancers are caused by HPV strains 16/18. These do not cause visible warts.
Most sexually active people will have been exposed to HPV at some point. The majority of people clear the infection with no ill effects.
Herpes is a separate virus that causes cold sores (on the mouth and/or genitals)

Anyway, the bottom line (no pun intended) is that your OH needs to go for a sexual health check to get his wart treated, as do you if any appear.

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Imadivvycow · 09/09/2019 16:17

I would have thought I'd have got one myself by now it's been half a year ? Maybe it's just a mole

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Opentooffers · 09/09/2019 18:12

You need to ask him how long he's had it, I discussed 2 bumps I was suspicious about with my BF, he didn't know what they were, but turns out they'd been there over 30 years so most likely skin tags - he has these elsewhere. Worry over, just by asking Smile. The only way and the mature wat, is to calmly ask.

Redcherries · 09/09/2019 18:51

Could it be a skin tag? I have a couple around the bit of my leg that my knicker elastic sits on in between my legs. I thought it was a wart at first but the dr said skin tag and I had them removed, they have come back though over the years.

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Imadivvycow · 10/09/2019 07:56

I think I've found one 😭

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