Nc for this in case too much detail
I've been with DH about 18 years and he met my parents maybe 3 months after we got together. We used to go for meals at theirs, or they came to ours. When we had DC they babysat quite regularly.
My DM died several years ago and after that, we saw my Ddad less, he went out more, went on holidays and created a very structured routine to his week, i think to stop himself having so much time at home alone.
Since DM died i would say DH has probably come with me about 40-50% of the times i have visited Ddad with DC. Sometimes he had prior commitments, other times i felt annoyed as he prioritised hobbies or was watching something on tv etc
A few months ago Ddad became quite unwell. I asked DH to come over one day as i needed to move some things at Ddads house to make it wheelchair friendly. He said he would but had to arrange a time convenient to what he was doing that day. That was about 7-8 weeks ago. I have been visiting 2-3 times a week with and without DC, and Ddads condition has deteriorated considerably, that we are probably thinking he has weeks if not days left.
The other day DH asked me had i thought what "we " should do with my inheritance.
I found it really insensitive, and said we shouldn't talk about it. Then he said what he thought would be a good idea.
I am really pissed off that he is thinking of ideas of how to spend my dads inheritance before he has passed and that he has not made any effort to visit recently (admittedly he was at work some of the time but not every time).
I also see his parents more than he does!