I've name changed.
I go out every week with OH to a group where there are core friends who invite others to join us. Everyone welcome and some people come along who really don't know anyone. It's a friendly group and there are new people most weeks. I don't tend to speak to OH a lot during the evening - he likes to talk to the new people and I prefer to build relationships with the regulars. All fine, we don't live together so we catch up at the end of the night and he comes back to mine.
A month or so ago a new lady came along. I thought she was lovely, very softly spoken, a bit of an earth mother/hippy type.
Last week, OH spent a lot of time talking with her. Fine, I was talking to others. This week I was in the garden with the people I was talking to and he was in the pub talking to the newbies, and she was sat next to him. I could see them through the pub window, she was standing over him and I didn't know why but didn't really think too much about it. When I went to get a drink about 10 minutes later and walked past them, I could see why, she was doing some sort of "therapy" on him where she was patting his face, head, chest. A bit odd, but we have previously talked to her about his asthma and sinus problems so I though it was connected to that.
I came and sat inside and was at the opposite end of the long table. The "therapy" had stopped but she was being very tactile with him, touching his arm etc. Then she got up again and started giving him a shoulder massage. The people sat near them had moved so I guess they were feeling uncomfortable. I don't know. Then, and this is the bit that really bothers me - at the end of the shoulder massage she kissed him on the side of the head. Not once, maybe a dozen times. Half the table (and both of them!) looked at me to see my reaction.
I'm really angry about this, they overstepped so many boundaries, didn't they? Am I over reacting by feeling pissed off?
(Sorry this is so long!)