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Would your family notice if you stopped eating?

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RatWife · 02/09/2019 17:57

I haven't eaten with my family for 9 days now. I cook meals and serve them but don't eat anything myself. Neither DH or DC have said anything.

For context I was ill in bed for about 4 days before this and just on liquids.

Maybe they think I am still ill?

When I say 'not eating' I mean not eating main meals. I will have an apple and a few crackers or toast in the morning and same in the evening.

It just occurred to me it was a bit odd that no one has asked if I'm eating or why I'm not joining them Confused

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NeatFreakMama · 02/09/2019 17:59

It's wierd they didn't notice. Why aren't you eating?

Parkandride · 02/09/2019 17:59

Um yes, do you sit with them while they ignore this?

Original poster
RatWife · 02/09/2019 18:00

I don't feel hungry.

No I don't sit with them, I stay in the kitchen and clean up.

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PurpleDaisies · 02/09/2019 18:01

Even if you don’t feel hungry, you need to eat.

Original poster
RatWife · 02/09/2019 18:02

I do eat purple, I just can't face a full meal so I snack on fruit and crackers.

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PotteringAlong · 02/09/2019 18:02

Yes, they’d notice.

MidnightVelvet9 · 02/09/2019 18:02

Yes it's weird, I felt sick just once & didn't eat dinner with them & then had to justify myself to both pre teen sons about why I wasn't eating. That's once.

I'd expect your DH to ask why & to ask if you're still ill? If this is out of the ordinary that is & there's no eating disorder involved.

Why are you not eating with them out of curiosity?

thatwouldbeanecumenicalmatter · 02/09/2019 18:02

You were having to cook dinners while you were ill? You've cooked all the meals for over a week? Is there a reason your DH doesn't cook?

PurpleDaisies · 02/09/2019 18:03

You know what I meant. Fruit and crackers aren’t enough.

This is a very strange thread.

EskewedBeef · 02/09/2019 18:03

Presumably you've spoken to them about your loss of appetite, so they wouldn't need you to explain why you aren't eating a meal with them.

AutumnCrow · 02/09/2019 18:03

Yes, my DS would. He's 20. I was ill last year and he still checks and offers to cook when he's home from university. He is far, far from being a fusspot.

Your DP and family sound really detached from you. I'm sorry. It does sound like they dont really see you.

ltk · 02/09/2019 18:03

My family would ask at the first missed meal. I know cuz I tried it last time dd cooked something and I really didn't want to eat it!
What usually happens at mealtimes at yours? Why haven't they noticed?

NeatFreakMama · 02/09/2019 18:03

Is this new? What's changed to change your behaviour where you don't sit with them and eat small snacks?

Mummyto2munchkins · 02/09/2019 18:03

They will notice OP, I use to have anorexia, made out I ate before etc etc they definitely noticed this. (I was A LOT younger at the time) now I've got my own DC I have ocassionally had a bad day and not eaten and DD will ask why I'm not eating and will give me some of hers!(how can you say no to DC saying but you need to eat mummy otherwise you'll get poorly and be in the ground like nanna)

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RatWife · 02/09/2019 18:07

Eskewed beef, yes maybe that's it.

As to what normally happens at meal times, I cook dinner and serve it and everyone sits down and eats it. I say start without me. I then usually serve mine last and join them.

The only different part is that I'm not saying start without me and I'm not appearing a couple of mins later to join them.

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PurpleDaisies · 02/09/2019 18:07

Are you trying to make a point?

Original poster
RatWife · 02/09/2019 18:08

Purple, no?

Don't understand your question really.

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Bookworm4 · 02/09/2019 18:10

Are you doing this for attention? Sounds odd

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RatWife · 02/09/2019 18:11

For attention?!

No; but even if the answer was yes it seems to be a poor way to gain attention!

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Debbierocket123 · 02/09/2019 18:15

Yes they would notice. I think it's mean of them to sit and eat dinner without you knowing you are ill. Take a night off and see what happens and when they ask where dinner is say you arn't well and for them to fix you something for a change!

Bookworm4 · 02/09/2019 18:15

It’s a very easy way to get attention, they will notice you’re not eating/losing weight, you’re already wondering why they’ve not realised. Unless you have an eating disorder you’re being very goado.

Bookworm4 · 02/09/2019 18:15

*goady

MashedSpud · 02/09/2019 18:20

Op already said she was ill on a liquid diet.

They probably got used to you not sitting to eat with them.

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RatWife · 02/09/2019 18:20

Debbie, good idea I might try that tomorrow!

Bookworm, I don't see how losing my appetite is being goady?

I'm preparing their meals as usual without complaint, but feeling a bit upset and taken advantage of.

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RatWife · 02/09/2019 18:24

It’s a very easy way to get attention, they will notice you’re not eating/losing weight, you’re already wondering why they’ve not realised

I have to disagree, no one has realised or noticed a thing! (Hence the thread..)

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