Would your family notice if you stopped eating?

[RatWife]

I haven't eaten with my family for 9 days now. I cook meals and serve them but don't eat anything myself. Neither DH or DC have said anything.

For context I was ill in bed for about 4 days before this and just on liquids.

Maybe they think I am still ill?

When I say 'not eating' I mean not eating main meals. I will have an apple and a few crackers or toast in the morning and same in the evening.

It just occurred to me it was a bit odd that no one has asked if I'm eating or why I'm not joining them

Mine wouldn't notice.

Mine would not notice between Monday and Thursday.

Friday, Saturday, Sunday. Yes, because we have full on family, sit round the table dinners on those days.

This is the weirdest thread.

You seem to be unhappy that they haven't noticed you not eating. In your OP you say**

Maybe they think I am still ill?

Suggesting you are not. Then you go on to say

I have lost my appetite due to illness!

Which says the absolute opposite

Mine would probably ask if I was having something. My husband offered me a sausage sandwich at lunchtime today.

I’m not weird about food though and often eat at different times so they are used to me not always eating with them.

If I was ill though, DH would cook so they would know.

Yes my partner would 100% ask why I wasn't. I'm sure he's a bit of a feeder 🤔

I had a late lunch today so didn’t have dinner with DH, I haven’t heard the end of it. So yes he would notice.

Are your children old enough to cook for themselves? Don't say 'start without me' as some sort of test or 'proof' of how badly you are treated. They may well think you don't like them very much and don't enjoy their company. By saying 'start without me' you are excluding yourself from the family group by your own actions. Do you see that?

No, we don’t eat as a family, DH is a shift worker, DS 2 is 17 and eats out mostly, DS 1 is 21 and nocturnal so eats when it suits him, yes we are a wierd family

Your being a modern day martyr OP.

So you not eating with them isn’t a great departure from your pre illness behaviour. Is there a reason why the people you cook for can’t do the washing up?

This has PA attention seeking written all over it. You act like a doormat and complain about being used when you’ve invested a lot of time in becoming one.

Martyrs don’t win medals.

Try this;

You- I'm still not feeling my best and have little appetite, could one of you lot make dinner tonight please?

Simples.