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Original poster

WWYD if your DP said this about you?

78 replies

NewStart571 · 01/09/2019 20:24

That in looks he rates you as a 5-6 out of 10 in looks?

Would this affect your self esteem? It’s playing on my mind.

Btw, this is a recent ex for many different reasons.

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faceorembrace · 01/09/2019 20:25

I think he was an utter arse, who is a pathetic loser who has to try to get his kicks from putting people down with his made up shit.

And then I 'd dump him.

NabooThatsWho · 01/09/2019 20:26

Im happy with myself so it wouldn’t effect my self-esteem but it’s a shitty thing to say. You are well rid!

Loopytiles · 01/09/2019 20:26

Very rude and unkind thing to say to, or about, you.

I would think he didn’t love or fancy me enough to be in a relationship with him anymore.

And that he must think he is more attractive.

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NewStart571 · 01/09/2019 20:27

@loopytiles yes he rated himself as a 7/8.

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Sigh81 · 01/09/2019 20:30

He clearly found you attractive or he wouldn't have been with you.

I would say he was just trying to be cruel and probably remind myself that he was likely no great shakes!

And then congratulate myself for having got rid.

SoloNow · 01/09/2019 20:31

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Aside from obvious supermodel types, one person’s 5-6 is another person’s 9 or 10, and most people are not superficial enough to see that as the totality of a person (or stupid/entitled enough to think rating one’s girlfriend anything less than 10 is a good idea).

So I would not give it a second more of your time. Make sure you are happy with yourself for you!

curiouslypacific · 01/09/2019 20:31

I'd think he was a prick who was trying to upset me for some reason. I wouldn't say that to someone I disliked, let alone someone I was in a relationship with, regardless of how true it might be.

SoloNow · 01/09/2019 20:31

Who rates themselves anyway?!?

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NewStart571 · 01/09/2019 20:32

@SoloNow - he was and is a complete arse hole (I might be biased)

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DramaAlpaca · 01/09/2019 20:33

How unkind. Yes that would hurt, even though my self esteem is fairly OK. I'm glad he's an ex.

SoloNow · 01/09/2019 20:35

Sounds like an objective assessment to me based on the evidence so far!

BobTheFishermansWife · 01/09/2019 20:36

Honestly? Right now I think I would stop and look at myself in the mirror, I would give it headspace for a little while, but then I would remind myself that I only make a full on effort if I'm going out out, usual day to day I'm quite plain looking, (possibly a knackered mess) so 5/6 out of 10 is potentially a compliment for a new mum like me.

But if I was normal me without the hormone imbalance that being a new mum brings, I would probably call him a twat and like pp dump him (if still together) or be glad to be well shot of him.

Krisskrosskiss · 01/09/2019 20:36

They do this to try and make you feel shit about yourself so you'll crave their approval and not think you could date anyone else.
My ex did this loads.. implied I was fat (I was a size 8 and 5ft7) said he usually dated traditionally stunning girls but he thought I was interesting...

I look back now and I'm like wtf? Dude is an uptight, boring, balding douche canoe... I'm so much better than him honestly. But he did a fantastic job of making me think I wasnt... it's such a common tactic from guys who dont have anything else to hold onto you with.

Craftycorvid · 01/09/2019 20:37

Delighted to hear he’s an ex, OP. Congratulations on jettisoning Mr 7/8 and I hope he enjoys himself finding someone ‘worthy’ of him Hmm

30to50FeralHogs · 01/09/2019 20:37

Try and forget about him, he’s clearly an arse. Nobody should be rating anyone, let alone their partner, but if they DO, a 5/6 is an insult.

We all know we’re not the most beautiful woman in the world, but our partner should make us feel as if we are!

HeadintheiClouds · 01/09/2019 20:38

He rated himself as well, bless him! Would you concur with his evaluation of himself? He was clearly trying to hurt you, pay him no mind.

GertrudeCB · 01/09/2019 20:38

I'd think he was a massive tit.
Negging bastard.

tierraJ · 01/09/2019 20:43

I would be glad he was my ex!

Gigia · 01/09/2019 20:46

Bury him under the patio

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NewStart571 · 01/09/2019 20:49

I never found him that physically attractive. That didn’t bother me though, as it was about more than looks for me.

Several people commented that they couldn’t believe we were together, as there were ‘leagues’ between us. This is not a stealth boast as I am not the most attractive person in the world (fat and geeky looking) but he also isn’t the most attractive man in the world.

However, his comment has really cut me up deeply.

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lyingwanker · 01/09/2019 20:54

He was probably insecure and trying to drag your self esteem down with him. You're well rid!!

Pinkbonbon · 01/09/2019 20:54

He's a dick.

But in all fairness, a 5/6 look wise isn't bad. I mean an come on! That would be me on a good day! And I don't have low self esteem, it just is how it is. And my personality is a solid 7 so its all good.

Maybe he is a 7/8 in looks, maybe not, but he's a 1 in personality right? So he was the one punching above his weight either way xD

HeadintheiClouds · 01/09/2019 20:55

He’s an insecure little dweeb.

BrainFart · 01/09/2019 20:57

If he rates himself so highly, perhaps he should be directed to go fuck himself instead ?

cacklingmags · 01/09/2019 20:57

Tell him he rates at a 3/4 - in the dark.

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