8 stages before he kills you

[lesleyw1953]

There was a programme on radio 4 today. A researcher was looking into the murders of women - on average 2 a week. She was looking at the stages that were passed through before the final act of killing and found that the vast majority of murderers shared the same 8 stages. I did not have time to listen to it all. But the first stage was a past history of a controlling, jealous relationship. I think the second was him being passionate and charming right up to the point where the woman made a serious commitment to him. It seems to me from reading a lot of similar posts on here that all women need access to this research

Yes for sure

Will try to get a link

Thanks for posting to raise awareness

link here

'The eight steps she discovered in almost all of the 372 killings she studied were:

A pre-relationship history of stalking or abuse by the perpetrator

The romance developing quickly into a serious relationship

The relationship becoming dominated by coercive control

A trigger to threaten the perpetrator's control - for example, the relationship ends or the perpetrator gets into financial difficulty

Escalation - an increase in the intensity or frequency of the partner's control tactics, such as by stalking or threatening suicide

The perpetrator has a change in thinking - choosing to move on, either through revenge or by homicide

Planning - the perpetrator might buy weapons or seek opportunities to get the victim alone

Homicide - the perpetrator kills his or her partner, and possibly hurts others such as the victim's children

The only instance where a stage in the model was not followed was when men did not meet stage one - but this was normally because they had not had a relationship before, she said.'