Asked me for help, told him where to go.

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My ex is going abroad in October with our 2 DC, his GF (of 8 months) and her 2 DC.
Our split was sort of amicable, (I was still devastated, still am in a way) although he had taken me for granted alot through out 15 year relationship and called me some horrible names.

I was a little upset when he told me they were all going away, as we had never been abroad before and he was doing alot of nice things for his GF which he had never done for me.
Anyway, as the months have gone on, I'm getting there; however I told him don't be asking me to help you towards your holiday (as I know what he's like) I've given him half for the kids passports, but that's all.

I start university next month and I have been given a student loan. For the third time now he has asked if I can lend him £400 when I get it and he'll give me £600 back.
I've said no, because it's for the holiday and why the hell should I lend you money for that (he's paying for the whole holiday himself, over £3000) he said it's for bills as work's slowed down a bit. I know his mum's partner has loaned him money to pay the rest of his holiday off.

He says I'm being petty, as our kids are going on holiday so I should think of them, but I think I'm doing the right thing.

Anyway I wanted an outsiders opinion, am I right?

Sorry it's so long

The ultimate cheeky fucker

Lol his girlfriend might not feel anyway about him asking you. Some people have no shame...my ex asked my parents if he and his new gf could stay at their holiday home abroad - my parents said no and what would his girlfriend think and he said she’s fine with it! lol

Well done for standing your ground, if he tries to emotionally blackmail you with the kids tell him to not take them, if he can’t afford it how will he even feed them there? And say you’ll take them away yourself when you can. He’s the one giving false promises as it seems he might not even be going if he still owes money for the holiday.

Don't be enabling him OP, you're not his mother.

He needs to step up and get himself sorted.

Stick to your guns. I think as time goes on you'll look back and think what the hell was I thinking bailing him out.

You are doing so well.

Why are you telling him about your finances ? He shouldn't know about the student loan at all & quiet frankly the student loan is just for that "student expenses".

@Monday55 RTFT. The OP didn’t tell him about the loan.