Is this flirting

[Thatsalovelycuppatea]

So you are out shopping. Your dh is at one end of the shop, but still in view.
You turn round to then see a woman older than him laughing and taking a hat of your dh. He claims he didn't know her. I watched them for five minutes then went over. I said is she flirting with you, do you know each other? She looked at me and walked off.
My thoughts- if she was genuine she would have apologised.
Apparently, she gave him a sob story that she needed a hat for her dad and could he try it on to see what it was like. Whilst I was watching them it did not look like that too me. ESP with the larking about.

Am I overthinking?? It just made me angry and I don't know why. Thanks.

You think she should apologise for having a friendly conversation with your husband? You sound insecure, controlling and unreasonable.

Very hard to say from that description.

Do you mean that it looked as if they knew each other?

Do you have any other reason to disbelieve him?

I think they were having a friendly random chat. Be happy that he isn't a miserable fucker.

Yes I thought it was a colleague because of the interaction. I have a lot going on at the moment, so I really don't need to be slated for this. I just want to know if it's flirting.

I’m not surprised she just looked at you and then walked off, you sound absolutely bonkers and I personally wouldn’t have engaged with the crazy lady either.
It doesn’t sound much more than harmless chat t be honest. I hardly think he’d be conducting his by-chance flirtations in front of his wife, out shopping.

It might be flirting, some people flirt without really realising, but it also might not.
He obviously doesn't know her as would have been embarrassed by your confrontation and told you so.
Poor bloke!

I feel terribly sorry for your husband, unless of course there is some involved back story as to why you don’t trust the man at all.

It doesn't sound like flirting necessarily, just friendliness.

Yeah I can be a bit crazy, and confrontational . I'm surprised we are still married sometimes because of it.

It sounds to me like you need help for your anger.

Have you ever thought of looking into help for it? It can’t be nice for your husband to be constantly on eggshells. I speak from experience when I say it’s a horrible feeling having to watch where you look and what you say.

This is a weirdly small thing to be so upset by

I've had loads of therapy and counselling. But it only works for a short while . It's not always like this. I just feel he is different with other people then he is with me and it annoys me. I am quite angry, about life in general at the moment so it may be I seek out some anger management.

Sorry you’ve a lot on your plate at the moment OP.

I think that you overreacted and probably made her feel very uneasy. Your husband must have been embarrassed. I think that you need it talk it over with a third party, a counsellor.

Feel sorry for your partner.

I can be a bit crazy, and confrontational . I'm surprised we are still married sometimes because of it.
That makes two of us.

So what if it was harmless flirting? I'm a dreadful flirt, I do it without thinking...but I'd never actually act on it.

He was hardly likely to sweep her off her feet and take her for an afternoon of illicit delights with you in the shop was he?

Not flirting, just friendly. OP I think you are jealous and over sensitive.

Flirting over a..... HAT?!!!!!

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I'd have walked off too because you were rude.

And no, it just sounds like she was being friendly.

OP, my exh used to do things like this.

If I spoke to someone in public, just passing the time or day or they started a converstation, he would come over and say something similar 'she has a husband you know' or 'is there a problem, do you know him?'

It was awful. One if several reasons he is an ex.

You may not want to heat it, but what you did was not ok. Why do you think it was a sob story? You really think a woman made up a story, to instigate some flirting with your husband. And that she shoild have apologised when you came over and spoke like that.

You didnt even address her, you spoke to your husband. Why would you ask him if she was flirting?

Whatever the issues OP, you need some help. Counselling is good but if you dotn want to change you ways it's not a magic cure all.

@Ilikethisone I'm sorry to hear what you've been through. It's not always like this. I don't know why I felt like this today

@Thatsalovelycuppatea

How regular does someone have to be to have a valid opinion? I've not said much different to the others on here.

Look around. I'm not a new poster.