He had a go at my DD

[AlwaysSunshine81]

BF came round last night. My DD ran and thumped him (out of excitement but caught his bits) and he shouted at her and had a go at her.
I felt really awkward. Didn’t know what to say so said nothing and carried on cooking. We don’t get together very much with kids and he later told his child off. It’s just been playing on my mind

How do you mean "he had a go at her"? what exactly did he say?

If he said "OUCH! MY BITS! Be more careful!" and then went on to be normal and friendly...then I wouldn't worry....but was it more than that?

I assume she's small...like 4 ish? What did he say to her?

Yeah she’s 4. He said very abruptly ‘don’t do that’ and she laughed and so did his child. She didn’t realise what she’d done I don’t think. He carried on saying how would u like it if I’d done that to you, it’s not funny... and then finally I Got her to say sorry. I had told her straight away don’t do that but she laughed and so did his child until I got cross and said say sorry and then felt very awakened

As long as he wasn’t aggressive or intimidating it’s understandable. She got him in a sensitive place it will have been an angry pain, like when you stub your toe and shout FUCK 🤷🏻‍♀️

That's not what I'd call 'having a go' really.

He was within his rights to say what he said.

She hit him in the nuts. You’re all lucky he didn’t turn the air blue.

I don’t think that’s a big deal. Is there more to it?

Not really no. Just took me by surpise. I don’t think I would have reacted like that to his child at his house

Sounds appropriate. He was right to say "Don't do that" as she'd deliberately thumped him..in his private parts too! Appropriate reaction. He and you should model the correct behaviour to her...and getting thumped or touched in any way which hurts or which impacts your privates should ALWAYS be challenged.

If his child thumped you in the privates what would you have said? Also, how long have you been together with this man?

Why is this playing on your mind? What was it about this incident that made you uncomfortable?

No she didn’t deliberately do it. She went to give him a little fist bump or something but it went wrong and she caught him in the wrong area.
Been together 18 ish months but hardly get together with the kids

The way he reacted made me feel very awkward

Because I know she didn’t do it intentionally

I thought she'd done it on purpose because you said 'then she did it again"

To be honest, I think your instinct should usually be listened to. But his reaction from where I am does not sound bad.

How was DD after this interaction? Happy? her usually self or quiet and sad?

I reckon most guys would have actually shouted so if anything he was nice about it. I’m sure most people would even react like that to a strangers kids if they hit them in the balls

I've just re-read and saw that you did not in fact say she'd done it again. sorry about that.

I don’t recall saying she did it again? She certainly hadn’t done it on purpose
She was fine.

I’m sorry I don’t recall saying she did it on purpose

What happened with him telling his child off later? Why did that bother you?

Did she say sorry? Why did she laugh? Surely a 4 year old knows not to laugh when they've hurt somebody? I'd be annoyed if I was him too tbh.

Cross post OP....I mention above that I misread your posts. I see she did not do it again sorry.

She ran and thumped his legs what I thought at first like a fist bump but certainly not his private parts

Even if done accidentally children need to be taught if they hurt someone they apologise. It's good manners

I think he acted appropriately 🤷‍♀️

I'm not a bloke but I've been told that it's bloody painful getting a knock of any kind on that region so I imagine he said it from pain and shock, and at 4 she is old enough to he more careful.