My partner and I are both in our mid 40s and have been dating for 7 years. He's very kind and compassionate, which is a breath of fresh air after my previous abusive marriage. He's been unemployed for the past 8 years and claims unemployment & housing benefits. There have been times in his life when he has worked, such as when he's been in a relationship with someone who has their own accommodation. (He says that he can't afford to live on his own as he's currently better off financially on benefits). During the past 7 years he has managed to retrain and has gained several high level qualifications which would enable him to find good employment, but he keeps saying he's still better off financially by not working. I have worked (full & part time) since I was 16, I own my own house outright and he's now asking to move in with me so that he can start looking for work. I'm a little concerned about him moving in as I'm not convinced of his work ethic. He's also very selective in what work he will undertake. I've spoken to him about my concerns and he tries to reassure me but also doesn't like me "hassling him into getting any old job". My family and friends are advising me not to let him move in but am I being selfish?