Hi,
So I will start off by saying that my husband is gorgeous and sexy but also kind and supportive and lovely. I feel so lucky to be with him. But! His levels of hygiene have really slipped since we got together. I admit to having a sensitive sense of smell and so I feel that I need and he needs to have a daily shower (it at least a wash of smelly bits - except he won't wash it is shower or nothing). I have tried being kind and gentle about the issue and I have also been blunt. He is not very secure and worries I 'will go off him' and I have bluntly told him that the thing most likely to put me off is him not showering regularly enough. I can't bear it when he comes back from a run and sits about for an hour or two before I finally nag him into the shower. Or when he actually does shower at the gym because he went for a swim, but doesn't shower after so smells of chlorine and puts his smelly running gear back on and he resents me asking him to have another shower when he feels clean already. I tend to take his preferences into account because I want him to find me attractive. His refusal to keep himself clean means that I really don't feel like being intimate with him any more even though I still think he is sexy. What can I do? I love him and don't want to leave him because otherwise he is lovely. But the issue with me not wanting to get close and personal is not great and he gets annoyed when I don't want to be near him because he smells... I feel like I can't win. Why isn't he embarrassed and why doesn't he just shower??? Ideas welcome please :-(