Hi, well this is a new thread, following on from my 'can I do this all by myself' one. New thread and new name!
It was the injuction hearing yesterday to which H didn't turn up. We had had a talk the night before, amid a lot of tears, but lots of things he said made alarm bells ring again and I knew he just wouldn't change. Then yesterday morning he asked were we going to try again. I said no...I couldn't as the same thing would happen and he went mad, told me to eff off again, packed some stuff and went. Gave me back my keys and went. I went to court for the injunction hearing and H didn't turn up, so the judge ruled in his absence and granted me an occupation order banning him from the house or from coming within 50 yards of it, and also an order preventing him from harassing me (think of the 50ish suicide threats I got last time I left).
I was completely numb yesterday; I expected to feel differently, happy maybe? But I just felt nothing, and then last night I felt unbearably sad. But today I am determined to be positive and look forward. Someone posted a quote a while ago on here which said 'don't look back unless you are planning to go that way' and that's my motto from now on!
I don't know where he is. I don't know if we will hear from him again. I can't belive a man can walk out of his child's life for good, but then again many do and in fact he did it with his 2 children from his first marriage. The problem is that the courts can't serve him with the papers until they can find him. I guess they will try his work place but I have a feeling he will simply disappear, leave his job and go back up North.
Anyway, my children can go back to being children and I can stop walking on eggshells.