I started a thread about this on the education forum a month or so ago asking how mcuh input kids have in their choice of secondary school. We have a choice of 4 schools for DS#1, 2 of which I probably wouldn't send a dog too, one of which (ex-grammar) has always had a good academic rep, the last of which is rising rapidly thanks to a new head and a large injection of cash. That's the one I like the idea of for DS'1. It's smaller (only 600 pupils) and has seriously improving academic results - every teacher I know in the area tells me that it is a very good school and getting better.
Sadly although DS was OK with this to start with he has now learnt that all his mates are going to one of the 2 schools I wouldn't be at all happy with - big campuses, reputation for bullying, bad reputation discipline wise). So now he wants to go there. DH hadn't really talked about it that much and I thought we'd reached the point where we'd visit them all but probably try to steer DS to one of the more academic schools. Tonight when MIL was here we had a minor row about this. DH reckons DS must go where he wants. Me - that DS will go where we want him to go with persuasion and if neccessary some sweeteners. He thinks I've got a broom up my backside about education as I went to a private school. And I think he needs to get out of his 70's liberal mindset that it's down to a 10yr old to decide his future!!! I really thought we were together on this more or less. If I have to persuade DH and DS how the hell do I manage it. Where do we go from here? DH is the most stubborn bu**er in the world.
Help!