Very confused here. Have been on several wonderful dates with a man I met online. He told me he hasn’t had a connection like this with anyone in so long and that he’s excited to see what happens with us. He did all the chasing, said all the right things.
Fifth date was last Thursday and we slept together. He has been very quiet since (unusual as he Normally contacts me a lot) and on Sunday he text to say he’s finding life very difficult at the moment. He said he doesn’t want me to think just because we’ve had sex he’s changed his mind, he just isn’t in a good place as apparently one of his friends died a week ago. I said I was sorry to hear that, that I understood and asked if he wanted to talk. He said ‘no, I’ve got nothing to say really.’
I backed off and have given him space but today he messages to say his friends funeral is next week. I asked if he would be going and he said ‘nah, not worth taking the day off work for someone i last saw five years ago.’ For someone who was seemingly so upset about his friend dying, I thought it was a weird reply.
He’s since been moaning about how he’s got a lot on his plate but has completely stopped asking anything about me. Texts from him are short and cold. It’s so odd. He’s literally gone from one of the funniest people I ever met to being completely cold and devoid of any affection towards me. I don’t know what to do from here. My gut is telling me that he’s lost interest since we had sex and is trying to phase me out. I’ve tried to be supportive of his issues without being full on and I even said that if he wanted to
Take a break from dating then that’s fine - he reacted by saying “what the fuck are you on about? Why are you acting like I’m some sort of prick? If I didn’t want you I’d just say”
At a bit of a loss here. Dating should be fun but I don’t know how to handle this one.