My husband belongs to a Buddhist group and goes out chanting on a night with them. I've only met one of the women. I am not invited, he never tells me when he's going. They message him by text when a message is on and his phone is always locked. I find it deeply hurtful that l am excluded. Once in a blue moon we go out and then l'm back in my box, left behind, while he suits himself. They all think he's great, but they haven't met his nasty evil twin. That side of him is saved for me. I don't see how it can be Buddhist to treat your wife with such disrespect. I work long hours to pay the bills as he is off sick, l wonder what you mumsnetters think?