Ex and I separated three weeks ago. I feel loads of awful things, sadness, regret, guilt for what it’s doing to my DCs, but also I feel really let down by our mutual friends.
We have a group of mutual friends. We told them the separation is amicable, we are not slagging each other to our friends and we don’t expect them to choose sides...and yet three guys have each (and separately) taken Ex out to check he is OK, have a chat, keep him company, etc. I asked if any of the women fancied a night out...no one is available for three weeks, I asked them over to ours with DCs and no one even replied. We also have a single friend who spent ages crying on my shoulder over her recent divorce who hasn’t even contacted me once but has been out with Ex almost daily (she has a boyfriend so I am not sure she has any ulterior motives) and a couple of other friends who are in constant contact and supporting Ex without having sent me one message.
Why are people so awful? I used to arrange all our social life before the separation. I sorted out invites, cooked food, bought drinks, etc. I remembered birthdays, and sick kids, and helped out. Ex always winged that these people were boring and he had better things to do with his time. And yet now they fuss over him while completely ignoring me.