To think im not relationship material?

[EtonM3ss]

i wonder if anyone else feels like me. I find relationships wearing and hard work. I dont really want to hear all about the others person's life and work issues. I dont really want to be involved with their family and the issues that brings. Id be crap in a relationship wouldn't i?

Echoing the sheer boredom of having sex with a porn addict. Dull, dull, dull.

My people

I needed this thread. My last relationship broke up a few months ago and I was devastated but on reflection I realise how warped and miserable the whole thing was. He was definitely messed up from porn - wanted to constantly push the boundaries to the point he wanted to inflict pain on me. I sensed sex was very much for his enjoyment and to play out his own fantasies.

In addition I often felt I was walking on egg shells around his moods. I realised my sadness at being dumped was more about me feeling crap and unwanted rather than being alone iyswim.

My longest relationship was 5 years, since then I've had mainly shorter ones 3 months to a year. I have 1 DD. We've always lived on our own. I love the pace of my life and can't imagine sharing it with anyone.

I try not to be in the all men are twats camp as I know some genuinely lovely men but for me I have been mainly disappointed in relationships and know that I am much more content on my own.

Phew, I’m glad I’ve found you! As a teenager I never wanted to be married or have children but ended up in a 30 year marriage with three DDs. Hated being a wife, love love love being a mum. I finished it four years ago and started OLD two years ago. I said to myself that all I wanted was dinner, sex and holidays from a man. And that’s what I’m getting (from three different men, admittedly!). While I enjoy chatting to them and being in their company, and the sex is brilliant, I can’t get my head around why I would want to have a full relationship again, with the demands, the compromises, the tedium, the financial and emotional risk. So glad I have my DDs, but my teenage self was absolutely right.

I'm 'resurrecting' this thread to let you know of an experience of mine between the last time I posted and now.

I'm on OLD. It is a soul-destroying prospect if you want neither a) to settle down into domestic bliss, or b) a FWB. I thought I met one man who was happy to consider the possibility of a close relationship but living separately.

As it turns out, I put the kibosh on it today because when I told him (yet again, for about the third time), that I was not going to stay the night with him, he went from dropping hints about bringing my toothbrush; to feigning ignorance when I suggested he was gunning for a fuck; to coming clean and saying that's what he wanted; to saying he understood where my boundary lay, and that there were no expectations; to then telling me I wouldn't be able to stop him from kissing me; to saying that he couldn't bear the thought of spending the night alone. This text conversation lasted all of - oh - 10 minutes?

This, after a very clearly-worded profile (that, I now realise, few if any men read), and a very clear conversation I had with him the first time we met.

And we'd only met once, ffs! ONCE! The level of projection and fantasy is breathtaking. I despair of finding someone mature enough to exercise impulse control and respect boundaries.

face-fucking-palm

@TexasRex ^^ There you go. Right there!