Hi feeling really low and sad tonight.
My husband been acting weirdly lately and I’ve been thinking something going on so today on rate time he was working from home I looked at his work laptop whilst he had to pop out.
So I found loads and loads of messages from this woman who works same place has no connection with his job. Skype business calls, instant messsge logs, all day everyday.
In the messages they share secrets, he moans about me. Makes me sound like pathetic spoilt woman and poor him and she keeps saying how lucky I am. He doesn’t even call me a name. Just wife and tells. Like ‘wife out tonight’.
I gave up an amazing job to be at home with kids I do everything for them and only reason he got the job which he wasn’t trained or had any experience was my contacts and coaching him.
He is bit of a geek and sits on laptop most nights playing weird games. I feel lonely a lot of the time.
He has said it’s nothing and nothing happened between them but why constant messages for 15 months and to be not talking of me other than nasty ones. Also why has he kept this frequent message friend a secret. He gets jealous if I text my gay friend who is married to gay husband and camp as Christmas!
It’s very flirty tone and I’m just lay in bed thinking what to do. He has a history of messaging other people in the past so I’m just wondering what on earth to do.
It’s making me question my marriage I’m not that happy he never kisses me or hugs me unless once every now and then he wants to do the deed. I’m late 30’s nice weight go to gym etc but I don’t feel like he is interested in me.
He said he wants to throw himself under a bus tonight but I’m not feeling sorry for him.
Any advice please xx