Is my Husband Hiding Something?

[ChumpMummy]

My husband is acting weird... I think he might be planning a birthday party for another woman!

Hello all, today I wish to share my, rather odd experience that I face at this current moment. Well, where do I begin?

It all started, when I was in the kitchen getting my morning cup of coffee, on the kitchen bench was a printer (Only there temporary as we are still shopping for a cabinet) when a HUGE birthday banner came out of the thing! I was so confused, it’s June, however, my birthday is in September! I did some research, and NONE of our relatives have any birthdays in June!

The banner said something along the lines of, Happy Birthday Julie! I was so shocked. There are no Julies’ in his work. So on the day (June 3rd) When the party was supposed to be happening I said I wanted to go out for dinner. But my husband said he was ‘busy’ and wanted to hang out with his friends. What do I do?

My kids aren't in school because it's night where we live

Make their own mind up about WHAT?

What part of it? Your second post and your OP are about completely different situations with seemingly no correlation between them. How do you expect us to give advice when we have no idea what you're on about and you're ignoring every question anyone asks?

I want them to make up their own mind if he's guilty or not

@ChumpMummy guilty of what?

Having an affair? Planning a surprise party? Printing a fkn banner out?

Maybe they'll think it's my fault because I wasn't a good enough wife

That's why Husband was yelling at me

Yes, but what will they think is your fault?

@chumpmummy.... I feel for you. Your posts are frustrating but clearly you are in an abusive relationship. I hope you will see this and find a way out.

Thank you

I agree with KOKO. Everyone here wants to help you but the way you've written your posts makes it impossible to do so.

• because it's hard to make sense of what's going on, pressed send too early

Are you a first time poster OP? Maybe you are unused to how fast moving MN is.

Yes, I'm new

Confused.com

Why did he tell his friend you were separated, why weren't you invited to the party? Sound's like he is hiding something, you need to sort thing's out with him, he sound's like a real pratt

Topics can move along quite quickly on here! Apologies if responses were a bit blunt at first - sadly it's not uncommon for a poster to come on, write an 'odd' first post then leave the thread, which I and others probably presumed you were doing

So. Break it down. You're at your mums house, husband shouted at you on the phone - what exactly were you talking about on the phone?

@mumofwantwomany I asked him if it was true that he told his friend we had split and he said yes. He blamed it on me not being a good enough wife and not 'sexy enough'. He started yelling.

oof

What a disgusting and abusive little man. I'm sorry to hear that OP, it's nothing to do with you, it's all him

He's also extremely immature. If he was unhappy with the marriage he could have just...y'know...TOLD you instead of pretending you'd split?

That vile behaviour from him is in itself enough but the supposed cheating makes it so much worse - what was the deal with the 'party' and the woman he was seen with?

Sounds like you're well rid. The children won't blame anyone. They'll just hope that you can keep things civil.

Apparently they were together for around 5 months now and he threw her a burthday party. He printed out birthday invitations and forgot I was home ( I was helping daughter with homework).

Ouch that's horrible. He actually said you weren't a good enough wife? Tell him he's hardly the perfect husband if he's messing around behind your back.

That's disgusting. You're well rid. I'm not sure what country you're in but I'd start looking at the practicalities asap - eg custody, housing rights etc