I feel like I am banging my head against a wall. I am exhausted from endlessly looking at houses and not getting anywhere. DP wants a fucking unicorn which doesn't exist. At this point I don't even want a house. I don't want anything.
He has a budget in mind and refuses to reconsider it, or even look at anything which is marketed at a higher price. Most houses we've seen are tiny and depressing, terraced, in dodgy areas with sofas and smack heads in one driveway but a brand new BMW in the next.
I feel like for even £25k more we would get a better property or the same sized property in a nicer location, but OH NO he wants as small a mortgage as possible to pay it off quickly ... but we're still looking at 15-20 years! So what bloody difference does it make!
He also refuses to consider flats. I don't want a flat either to be fair, but if the goal is to spend less money then I'd rather buy a maisonette with a garden and be done with it.
Anything that comes up which is even remotely suitable gets snapped up quickly and we're just going round in circles. I cry on a weekly basis from sheer frustration and I don't know what to do. I suggested renting for another year to save up for a bigger deposit and I get "rent money is dead money." Sometimes I worry that I am not married to a man but to a collection of catchphrases cleverly arranged into a human form!
He is 10 years older than me, neither of us have owned a home before... I understand wanting to be mortgage-free quickly, but SURELY the house should be worth it? He previously lived in a campervan (by himself) so I think every house he sees feels like a large luxury to him.
Sorry about this long, rambling post, but I am at my wits end!!