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My boyfriend of two years wants charge me to paint my SMALL BOX room.

113 replies

Inayahlewis · 28/05/2019 01:01

I have been with my boyfriend for two years. He spends half his time at my house eating and using everything for free, yet he wants to charge me £160 to paint a SMALL BOX ROOM in his day off. I would do it myself, but I had a very bad back injury and can not stand for long. I am a legal advisor and would never dream of charging him for work he needed doing. Am I wrong for thinking he is being unreasonable.

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Miniloso · 28/05/2019 08:39

Next time he wants a BJ, tell him it’s £60, I believe that’s the going rate. 🍆

overnightangel · 28/05/2019 08:55

Get rid asap

crazyasafox · 28/05/2019 09:07

I read the title as 'my boyfriend want to charge me to paint my smallpox.' Blush

misses point of thread........

crazyasafox · 28/05/2019 09:07

Anyway, he is obviously not a keeper. Bin him. You're worth more than that.

Bet he made you pay for your drinks on the first date that he asked YOU on too, and has always taken a calculator on every date/evening out/trip you have been on, just to make sure he doesn't pay a PENNY more than you, for ANYTHING.

Hell would freeze over before I settled with a tight cunt like this. Imagine what he would be like if you married him, and had a kid with him, and went part time, or became a SAHM?

He would have you begging him for money for nappies, and clothes for you and the baby. On top of this, he would probably have an accounting book to make sure he gets every penny back from you (for your 'half' of everything,) once you're earning again.

Sounds farcical? I have known men who do this, and women whose men have done it.

A man who is tight fisted and mean with money, is NOT a keeper. On top of being tight fisted, he is a cocklodger too. FFS! Hmm

Run! The hills are THAT way ......>>>>>>>>>>>>

MashedSpud · 28/05/2019 09:16

If you want to have a child with this man ask what his babysitting fees are beforehand.

SummerWhisper · 28/05/2019 09:22

He doesn't like you, but he likes what he gets from you. I had a boyfriend like this. He contributed nothing and secretly resented me for being more successful than him, so he took as much as he could. I cottoned onto it when his mother offered to buy him something for his birthday and he told her (in front of me) that I would buy it. We had not even had a conversation about it. I really enjoyed not buying it when he was very much expecting it. He had literally spent £1 on my birthday present a few months before and even though I am not materialistic, I was hurt at his lack of effort. Then, to make up for the 'shortfall' on his birthday, he asked me (in June) for a very expensive Christmas present and could he have it early. I said no (it cost about £400 and this was twenty years ago!). He stropped off and I suggested he stayed at his own place from then on instead of at mine 6 nights a week, eating and drinking (booze) for free. He is still a loser and he still hates me for taking away his lifestyle.

I am really sorry. The pain of getting rid of him will be short-lived but your bank account will be healthier for it. Nobody needs a partner who is only after their money. Flowers

DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 28/05/2019 10:17

Its pretty unanimous isn't it OP? For two years this "boyfriend" has halved his cost of living and now wants to pay you for a simple favour which you would do yourself but cannot because of your back injury.

I can understand you paying for the paint.. but not the labour

I wonder what he is doing with all that extra money he's saved over the last two years? I wonder what you could have used the extra money for if he'd contributed to your joint expenses.

Add up your weekly expenses and work out what he's been costing you for two years. The total will probably shock you.

DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 28/05/2019 10:17

*you to pay him, I mean...

Jaxhog · 28/05/2019 10:19

Tell him that is fine, provided he pays you for food and lodging when he's at your place. Then give him his marching orders.

eddielizzard · 28/05/2019 11:03

You could present him with a bill for food, drinks, electricity and water. I bet he owes you a lot more than £160!

Thing is, the relationship is now dead in the water. He's shot himself in the foot. You, OTOH can now see his true colours and you're free to find someone much more generous and kind. Because those are the qualities I'd look for in a life partner, not penny pinching and meanness.

Belenus · 28/05/2019 11:21

I call bullshit - this exact same story gets circulated around the internet every couple of years.

So report the thread for trolling. Or consider that something like this happens to a lot of people. Otherwise it's an odd thing to make up really.

Original poster
Inayahlewis · 28/05/2019 11:32

how ridiculous is that comment? thats exactly what happened! like this would only ever happen to one person in the world! gtfoh

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Original poster
Inayahlewis · 28/05/2019 11:33

i can’t even believe this comment! i should report this comment for the stupidity! i came on this thread for opinions, cause i do not think i am in the wrong for being livid

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Original poster
Inayahlewis · 28/05/2019 11:34

exactly! i ended the relationship yesterday. I am still fuming.

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Frittata · 28/05/2019 11:44

Well done for finishing it Smile

Frittata · 28/05/2019 11:44

PS: did you say why? If so, what did he say?

tunnocksreturns2019 · 28/05/2019 11:50

You were right to end it.

There’s a man spending hours painting my fence right now because he loves me, even though he knows that although I’m single I just can’t do a relationship right now.

PlinkPlink · 28/05/2019 11:50

@FurrySlipperBoots

Very few people know that, I reckon. The only reason I do is because I was in a theatre production of it 😂
Thank you for bringing back some brilliant memories for me!

mslewis · 28/05/2019 11:51

@Belenus those first two responses was to you! 7.6 million people in the world and you think that could only happen to one person in the world LMAO

PlinkPlink · 28/05/2019 11:52

Serious cocklodger.

If you don't have someone who's willing to do things for you out of love then it begs the question what is he with you for?

Sounds like hes got a pretty cushdie life tbh.

Snake.

PlinkPlink · 28/05/2019 11:52

Just seen your update OP!!
Well done!!!

Woohoo! Freedom!!

areyoubeingserviced · 28/05/2019 11:54

Op, you need to get rid of him.

Belenus · 28/05/2019 12:08

those first two responses was to you! 7.6 million people in the world and you think that could only happen to one person in the world LMAO

I assume you mean billion, not million, mslewis. You need to go back and look at my post again. The first part in bold is quoting someone. I then disagree with that quote and state that it's likely this situation is a fairly common occurrence. I was supporting the OP.

user1481840227 · 28/05/2019 12:43

What a cheeky, greedy idiot!
Painting is such an easy job too, would a painter and decorator even cost that much??????

IHeartArya · 28/05/2019 13:06

Well done!!!

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