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Ex emailing over £7

67 replies

BigRedLondonBus · 27/05/2019 12:28

I haven’t heard from my ex in one year. That’s the last time I spoke to him. He hasn’t made any contact since. He last seen our four children 2 years ago. Well today I get an email from him moaning that cms are taking SEVEN yes SEVEN pounds from him a week.

Can he get much worse?! Not “how are my children?” no, just that I should “stop running to the cms” he hasn’t paid a penny this whole time but moans that he now has to pay the grand total of £7.

Don’t know how you can get much worse tbh. Should I just close the case? Doesn’t seem worth having it open

OP posts:
PicsInRed · 27/05/2019 12:29

Ignore the email and leave the case open.
Fuck him and his bleating.

cranstonmanor · 27/05/2019 12:30

Buy a bottle of wine of the 7 pounds and celebrate that he is out of your life.

Ribrabrob · 27/05/2019 12:30

That's awful. Please don't close the case though OP - he needs to know that he has to pay for his children, even if is such a measly amount.

theworldistoosmall · 27/05/2019 12:31

Ignore his moaning and keep the case open. What type of Arsehole moans over £7

redastherose · 27/05/2019 12:32

Definitely leave the case open and ignore the selfish bastard. He's not worth your headspace but he should be paying even if it's a pittance it's worth it to know he's having to do something he doesn't want to.

MrsMozartMkII · 27/05/2019 12:33

Ignore the email.

Keep the case open.

He's an arse, but you know that.

GreenTulips · 27/05/2019 12:34

I’d email back ‘delighted to inform Betsy, Gregg, Anna and Harry their father is now contributing £1.75 to each of them for their upkeep, we will be holding a family meeting shorty to discuss our windfall and make plans on how to spend this additional sum, I can imagine Harry will be running to the nearest sweet shop, whereas Betsy will be fat more sensible and save’

I’ll let you know the outcome when we’ve finished celebrating in style.

wildhairdontcare · 27/05/2019 12:35

@GreenTulips Grin

cakeandchampagne · 27/05/2019 12:44

Ignore him. Don’t close the case.
You already know he doesn’t care about them.

QueenoftheBiscuitTin · 27/05/2019 12:46

What a pathetic excuse for a man.
Don't close the case, he has a responsibility to financially contribute to his children. £7 is ridiculous.

overdrive · 27/05/2019 12:47

The calibre of arsehole written about on MN never ceases to amaze me.

Do not close that case. Why would you give this parasite what he wants?

ItsInTheSpoon · 27/05/2019 12:49

He’s the loser in this situation... no relationship with his own children. What an idiot.

I love the reply GreenTulips suggests! Or no reply. But don’t close the case - why on earth shouldn’t he pay towards his own children Flowers

Walkamileinmyshoesbeforeujudge · 27/05/2019 12:50

My ex was ordered to pay £13.50 a month for 3 dc.
Self employed and apparently skint... Not too skint to build a conservatory or set up a new business though.
After csa changed I just didn't bother claiming..

Ghostontoast · 27/05/2019 12:50

He begrudges them 25p a day each?

MyMumDimensionJumps · 27/05/2019 12:50

Is he unemployed? I think they can only take that sort of sum if he is on UC. He is probably moaning as it is a large part of his meagre UC income. He should be trying to get a job so he can contribute more, not moaning about giving his kids £7 between them a week!

Does he live far away or is he local? If he is local he can still see his kids, even if he is short on cash.

Original poster
BigRedLondonBus · 27/05/2019 12:51

I guess it means I won’t hear from him again . The only time I hear from him is if it’s about money, since that’s all he cares about, all £7 of it.

He will now just stop claiming benefits (which is what the letter I received a few days ago said he is claiming) so that he doesn’t have to pay. He really will do anything to avoid paying.

OP posts:
Lordamighty · 27/05/2019 12:51

Definitely send GreenTulip’s email & don’t close the case.

Original poster
BigRedLondonBus · 27/05/2019 12:52

We live opposite sides of London. The letter says he is getting benefits.

OP posts:
overdrive · 27/05/2019 12:54

So how will he survive?

What age are you children?

What a vile human being. I (and most people, I imagine) would hand over £7 to a kid in the street if they needed it, and he would rather stop his own benefits than provide for his own children?

Yabbers · 27/05/2019 12:54

Respond to him with a list of how much it costs to raise your kids. Let him know what his 7 quid pays for and say he should be thankful you aren’t going for more. Close by letting him know you will be blocking his email if he ever complains about it again and all contact should be through a solicitor.

lazymare · 27/05/2019 13:02

I would screenshot that and post it all over social media.

Cruelstepmother · 27/05/2019 13:03

Don't close the case. It may be a tiny amount, but what if he gets a well-paid job later - or wins the lottery? It keeps the door open for a later increase.

KatharinaRosalie · 27/05/2019 13:03

I should “stop running to the cms - tell hhim you'd love to, of course this means he will start paying voluntarity then?

Porridgeprincess · 27/05/2019 13:13

OMG, that is probably the meanest thing I have ever read. I would ignore the email though and leave the case open. Just block any correspondence you might get from him. That is appalling though.

Potentialmadcatlady · 27/05/2019 13:18

I got £5 a week for two kids.. we ‘celebrated’ its arrival once a month with a dominos pizza....He then got a job and we got £400 for one month- I told the kids to choose what they wanted to spend it on for the first couple of months- they choose shoes/clothes/cardboards full of their favourite treat foods and a new bunny hutch for their bunnies... Their ‘father’ then decided he didn’t want to have to hand over any more money so packed in his job...