Ex emailing over £7

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I haven’t heard from my ex in one year. That’s the last time I spoke to him. He hasn’t made any contact since. He last seen our four children 2 years ago. Well today I get an email from him moaning that cms are taking SEVEN yes SEVEN pounds from him a week.

Can he get much worse?! Not “how are my children?” no, just that I should “stop running to the cms” he hasn’t paid a penny this whole time but moans that he now has to pay the grand total of £7.

Don’t know how you can get much worse tbh. Should I just close the case? Doesn’t seem worth having it open

I wouldn't close the case or engage with them.

My girls turned 16 this year and their father told them that he had paid over hundreds and hundreds a month for them "every month forever" and that he knew I kept it all in an account.

Unfortunately for him I did have maintenance coming into a separate account so I could easily show them that it was bollocks

I think some men put their children in the same file as the ex. They cant separate the relationship with the kids with that with the mother. Dont like the ex, dont like the kids either because they came from her.

Oh this is very true, my ex doesn’t see them as his kids, he sees them as an extension of me. My sister described it as “he sees you as a woman he met who has kids” I read something on here once that I think applies to a lot of these deadbeat fathers, they only love their kids as much as they love the mother.

I was very tempted to just close the case as it’s just not worth it and the £7 is an insult but I will just leave it open and ignore him.

Leaving it open and taking that £7 is the biggest "Fuck off" you can say and you dont even need to contact him to do it.

Isn't pissing him off worth it? He's shiftless prick who doesn't give a shit about anything but himself, if £7 a week pisses him off and makes his life more miserable then fabulous.

My ex was the same -

Paid £7 pw for our child then started working but didn't declare it ... I reported him and he got hit with a £1000 CSA bill when they finally caught up with him ... he's currently moaning about paying me £70 extra per month whilst financing his new partners 4 children + one he has on the way but not wanting to pay for his first child by me.

Even if it was £7 pw I would; out of principle; keep the case open.

I have a husband the same !
Last months total £32 for 2 kids 16&18 ! I returned it! This from a man that earns nearly £1000 a week! Yes you read that right!

I can totally empathise with you, and it depends what you would rather do. I am aSAHM on benefits, but I will not be held to ransom by him anymore. So, for me, I would close the case with no contact with him and tell myself that’s the cost of peace.
I am divorcing STBXH and I am not taking spousal support, pension, bonus, or savings from him. Don’t care what anyone else thinks, just doing what’s right for my kids and a peaceful life. He wouldn’t pay it anyway, so I’d be paying £1000s in court fees to get £100s back.

Do what right for you.

Keep it open, on principal if anything else. I’d do it just to piss him off.

Tell him kids are not pay per view!!! Their needs are still responsibility whether he sees them or not!!!!!! Had the same conversation with DD's so-called Dad

Sadly I'm not surprised when I read about men of this ilk. I have one myself, eldest dcs is of equivalent scumfuckery.

If you don't need that measly £7 a week, I'd keep taking it and use it for scratch-cards. You might get lucky and it would be incredibly satisfying to wave a substantial lottery win under your ex's nose one day...

Don't let him have his way, he needs to keep paying it. And feeling the 'pain'.

I had one similiar, paid £20 a month for 2 children, and took me back to court to get it reduced, he had another woman living with him but they didn;t take her income into account, he had already got the family home,[it was in his name] and i got a small amount just enough to buy second hand furniture with, ,
My rubbish solicitor didnt tell me i could have lived in the house until my youngest were 16, was on the best paid wage in the area, for what he did
At court the magistrate said you can claim Social security, and reduced his payments to £2 a week
This was years ago, when the laws were different, and he rarely saw the kids, and when he did, he took them to the pub to sit in the beer garden while he was inside,they both hate him now
Please keep taking his money, the ratbag

WOW 2 more messages from him moaning about it and saying he will pay me ONCE a YEAR. Saying we can sort the payments out between ourselfs, obviously I just went to the cms because it would be fun rather than the fact he refused to pay . I actually think he’s got off pretty lightly 4 kids and doesn’t have to have any responsibility for them other than pay £7 a week and he has the cheek to complain.

Sorry to hear a lot of you also have useless exes, it’s sadly not uncommon.

Just ignore him and leave it with the CMS.

Yes of course he will pay you when the year is up 🙄

Exactly. Mad that he thinks I will buy that! Once a year, he must be having a laugh.

Oh and they keep writing to him apparently. Yes they only keep writing to you because you refuse to pay! if you cooperated they wouldn’t keep writing.

My EX once said he wanted to put the money in an account for my son's future. I think he wanted the glory when my ds was 18 .. I told him he was welcome to save money for his future but the maintenance was money towards helping to raise our son..Funnily enough he pay the bare minimum through cms and saves nothing/