Ghosted!

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Why are people such arseholes?

I had been seeing a guy for the last 5 months, a couple of times a week, messaged nearly every day etc and now I've been ghosted for 8 days!! I've contacted him during this time (once) & nothing back.
I can see he is online on FB often etc.

The last time I saw him things seemed fine.

Just makes you feel really shitty! Could at least have the decency to say if you don't want to see someone anymore, instead of ghosting & leaving then wondering.

Just ranting really.

This is upsetting. But I would stop messaging now l and work through how you feel with no further contact.

You have nothing to gain from messaging more. And if he can be so cruel then he is no loss.

Look after yourself. ❤️

Yes, I feel for you. It is really shit behaviour and I don't get it. Five months is a long time and he is clearly a coward/weird about discussing something like an adult. You'll bounce back but in the meantime, there is gin and chocolate. Look after yourself x

Very similar situation to me. It's just inconsiderate and rude, no explanation nothing. And then recently my 'man friend' who ghosted me announced his new relationship on FB. I figured good luck to her, she's gonna need it to deal with this emotionally immature man-child.

Just look at it from the point of view that he's actually done you a favour in the long run. Onwards and upwards!

How cowardly. Don't take it personally whatever you do. He should be ashamed of himself

That is awful. Truly. 5 months??!! You have my sympathies. I guess thank goodness it didn’t progress and he ghosted you further down the line when eg you had children. Because he’s no doubt capable. Arsehole. Next!

Yup - presuming you have actually been meeting up for dates for 5 months, you at the very least worthy of an explanation, even if only of the 'we aren't suited' or 'it's me, not you' variety.

It's him (as you know).

Well rid, lucky escape.

At least he isn't leading you on. Unless he comes back, in which case you will have the wonderful opportunity to shoot him down entirely by replying 'sorry, who is this?'. And then blocking. xxxx

Thanks everyone.

It just makes me feel like crap & gets me down as I genuinely liked him & didn't think he was like that.... but you're right, it is cowardly & shows what type of a person he really is!

He leaves for a 2 week 'lads holiday' in a couple of days too, good timing 🤔

Onwards & upwards!

I honestly would block and delete him on everything. Get rid

He ghosted you after 5 months! What an arsehole. I've been ghosted after sleeping with a guy last week, it sucks. Trying not to think it was anything I did/didn't do.
You need to block and delete him on everything, don't give him a chance to worm his way back in. Lots of and

Stumbled across your post. I'm older and before all this crap became common place.

Can I ask, why not phone and ask for an explanation? Or is it the norm to recognise 'ghosting' and back off quietly? Why not kick off a bit?

Clearly he is making sure he has no ties before his lads holiday. When he returns, he will probably make contact with you again, which then gives you the opportunity to ‘ghost’ him.

5 months is way too long to just ghost someone! I had this happen but only maybe after one meet up and then months later they re surface like nothing happened. I would just ring him and leave a voicemail or something. Fuck playing it cool 5 months is a lot of time invested.

If you've only contacted him once, contact him again and ask him what's going on.

I’m really sorry he’s done this to you. My ex did this after a 13 month relationship, I’d been raped and just got out of the hospital after a nervous breakdown. It absolutely broke my heart. When he did contact me 9 months later,I got the pathetic excuse of he was ‘scared’. I stupidly gave him another chance, 3 weeks later he ghosted me again. Then he reappeared in again in March and has been nothing but abusive. I need to get rid of this man once and for all. It’s not you, he’s just a gutless coward and you deserve better x

@Xxalisoncxx that's awful. So sorry to hear that.

I'm not ringing him or contacting him again, he clearly isn't interested or he would have replied the first time &/or messaged me off his own accord and I don't really want to waste my time on someone who thinks it's okay to treat somebody this way.

I won't gain anything from kicking off other than giving him the satisfaction of him thinking I'm bothered (which I obviously am but he doesn't need to know that)

He's gone on holiday for 2 weeks now anyway...

Just wait for the text your get in about 2 weeks and 2 days with all the bullshit

Just block him on everything now so he cant contact you when he returns from his jollies and fancies a shag.

Sorry you have had a crap experience.

Block block block and put it behind you. It's all his failing and no reflection of you at all. X

Wow. I can't believe you could ghost someone you've been seeing for 5 months that's awful. My 5 month long relationship is coming to and end and I'm devastated. I can't imagine how it would feel if he simply ghosted me.

It is most definitely him and not you. And I'd be surprised if it wasn't somehow linked to his lads holiday. But honestly, what an arse.

How are you doing? X

@Maybeitsjustmeor - thanks for checking in, still feeling pretty shit to be honest but trying to keep myself busy!

It's difficult that every time I go on FB messenger he is online (shows at the top) & he barley uses social media so that's quite funny! My guess he is talking to someone else!! Hence the ghosting maybe.

What a pathetic little man.

Just tell yourself that this isn’t your fault. It’s his problem. He wasn’t even man enough to end the relationship in a civilised and respectful way. Count yourself lucky that you only spent five months with him. God help the next woman!

You will get over this. Remind yourself that you are the decent person here. Move on, then if you ever run into him again, be dignified and gorgeous.

Aww must be so hard. Its really wrong how someone can think he can just do that!

At first I thought you should go all guns blazing but what she said ^^
Sounds like a much better approach.
I bet he will get in contact might even have a sob storey to explain why he dropped off the earth. That it was getting too serious and he's been hurt in the past blah blah.

Stay strong xx

You need a plan for how you respond when he comes back

You dodged a bullet there OP. It stings a bit now but that will wear off soon.