Too much too soon, now what

[bmlover]

So I met someone 3'months ago
Relationship history was I was in a 4yr relationship that ended badly and I was cut up. I had a year out and thought I was ready to date
Met someone straight away on old
We moved too quick - said I need to take things slow and he said he respected that. 3m down the line I'm realising we should have gone slower or maybe I'm now thinking I'm having doubts as he isn't for me ?
I feel awful so please be kind !
So he's nice and lovely and all is good but I have niggles...
Is this normal to have niggles ?
My ex and other ex's haven't felt these before but have always rushed and it's never worked out
We only see each other weekends as he works in week and lives an hour or so away and I have a lo who hasn't meet him yet
Lo is at her dads the weekend and with me in the week
Anyway, niggles are he lives at home with his mum, fine I thought at first but he has NO money !
Now I'm obviously not after money but I am a single ( working ) mum and not that i have money but I have enough to do things as I budget
He gets ok money (more than me !) but still has a credit card with bad apr and I'm just so good with money and not in debt that I just feel when he comes over he says things like ' let's stay in and cook
To save money '
Am I mean to be thinking I don't wanna cook when I cook all week ?!
To be fair he isn't a sponger when we do go out, he does pay but I'm not one for expensive meals anyway so I find we stay in a lot, go for walks, basically do free things
I like staying in but I feel I've met someone who because has credit cards and a car loan, he says he has no extra money.
It's my fault as I feel for him quite quickly and said I love you etc but now I'm finding should I have taken it slower ?
He's respected that I dont want him meeting lo at the mo but I just don't know if I should end things now or if I've being horrible ?!
Sorry for long post just need some outside of my circle advice
Thanks x

All this after only three months?.

Do not further become mummy number 2 to this man. You have one child, you do not need a manchild as well. Your child deserves and actually needs to see positive and life affirming lessons on relationships.

We learn about relationships first and foremost from our parents, what did you learn about relationships when you were growing up?.

Bin this man off now OP; he will continue to try and suck you back in as well as bleed you dry.

And as for him threatening to upload a picture of your leg, well for that comment as well he deserves his marching orders now.

I would send him a clear and unambiguous text message today telling him that this is now over. You owe this guy really nothing anyway and certainly nothing more than such a message now. After doing this block and delete all means of him being able to contact you.

I read earlier that you had already been on the Freedom Programme and that is great. I would further consider what you have learnt about relationships to date and unlearn all the rubbish you have picked up along the way through counselling.

You sound like such a lovely girl and mother. Someone who works hard and has gone to great efforts to create a good life for her child.

He is a waster, waiting to move in with someone who is set up.
You have seen his true side.

Any hint of tightness in a man was all I needed to run for the hills when I was young. Tightness is ALWAYS deliberate in a person. It is completely different to being careful.

The fact that he would even consider threatening you with putting a picture up on FB is telling you everything you need to know IMO.
He is absolute scum, I have no doubt he would be abusive to you going forward.

I think you behaved with great decorum!
Thank goodness he doesn't live nearby.
Don't upset yourself further, you are well rid.

Seriously, he threatened to try to shame you sexually on social media? Give him the boot, hard.

This creep has the golden phallus of cocklodger perched high on his forehead with flashing lights.

Quick to say I love you and he wants marriage. Hinting about moving in, hinting about spending 3-4 days at yours.

Works but has debt, not savings, lives with his mum, and has no idea where his money goes.

Doesn't take you out but wants to couch warm at yours while you cook and clean up after him and sex him up. Yuck.

Threat to upload pics of you to fb.

There are so many of these leeches in their 20s and 30s who seek out single mums who are financially sound so they can leech off of them.

You know exactly what to do.

Thanks for everyone's replies
Well rid arent I lol x