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Didn't bring me to a wedding

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ponytaildilemma · 19/05/2019 17:20

Just that really. Bf of nearly a year went to a wedding of a close friend this weekend and did not invite me despite all the freiends partners and wives went along. Our relationship has been a very very slow burn as he wasnt really ready for a relationship. It's still slow. See eachother once a week , hang out together. No commitments or plans as such . Wedding was overseas . I thought it would be a good opportunity for us to have a nice weekend away and I was eager . He excised not bringing me as he was a groomsman but in truth he would only have had to eat dinner at the wedding table and he would have been all mine after that. Am I expecting too much?

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Southernc0mfortmirror · 19/05/2019 17:22

Did the bride & groom invite you? Or was there a plus one on the invitation? It wasn’t his wedding, so it’s up to the b&g surely

MrsGarethSouthgate · 19/05/2019 17:22

Were you invited by the bride and groom?

AnneEyhtMeyer · 19/05/2019 17:23

I don't think he sees himself as your boyfriend.

Flippedout · 19/05/2019 17:23

No.

He isn’t that serious about the relationship yet .

He might get there or you might be wasting your time

Only you know the answer

Doyoumind · 19/05/2019 17:24

Were you even invited? He can't take someone who isn't invited. It wasn't a holiday. He went to celebrate the marriage.

Chilledout11 · 19/05/2019 17:25

He's telling you who he is. Dump him

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ponytaildilemma · 19/05/2019 17:27

Yes I was invited

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MsMightyTitanAndHerTroubadours · 19/05/2019 17:27

tbh I think you are expecting too much if you are only seeing each other once a week still over a year then upping that to a weekend away is a bit much

is he really ready for a new relationship or is it all you?

Seems to me he's not that fussed tbh as this wedding would have been an excellent occasion for him to make a bit more effort but he chose not to take that opportunity.

CocoLoco87 · 19/05/2019 17:28

Why didn't you go if you were invited? It's not up to him if you go or not... if you have an invitation then it's up to you!

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ponytaildilemma · 19/05/2019 17:29

He did bring me to a family wedding some months ago . It was there that I met all his family and friends for the first time . It's kind of all on his terms and I'm beginning to get a little miffed . I'm
Disappointed about the wedding as I have heard all about these friends of his and I thought that by him bringing me would cement our relationship

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AtrociousCircumstance · 19/05/2019 17:29

You’re not expecting too much!

He’s not committed to the relationship at all. It doesn’t sound like he’s in love with you and I think you’ve been together more than long enough to have discovered your feelings for one another.

PatchworkElmer · 19/05/2019 17:30

I think his actions are speaking louder than words here.

overdrive · 19/05/2019 17:30

He excised not bringing me as he was a groomsman but in truth he would only have had to eat dinner at the wedding table and he would have been all mine after that. Am I expecting too much?

Have you met these other friends? Would you want to sit without him with people you don't know so well for the whole meal and speeches, plus photos? To be honest, I wouldn't want to be "all yours" for the night if it meant chaperoning all night because you didn't know people.

Passtherioja · 19/05/2019 17:31

I think he has cemented his thoughts about the relationship - he's made it quite clear that you're his once a week hook up. Leave him to get in with what he's doing and find someone better and more committed.

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ponytaildilemma · 19/05/2019 17:31

I was invited as his girlfriend. I don't know his friends. His friend asked my boyfriend if he wanted me to come too but my boyfriend used the fact that he was a groomsman for a couple of hours or so , as the reason fro not bringing me along

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Flippedout · 19/05/2019 17:31

Just go a bit cool on him .

If it’s meant to be he will start snapping your arm off .

Don’t waste too much time if you think it isn’t going anywhere x

pallisers · 19/05/2019 17:32

He is just not that into you. I wouldn't stick around myself.

overdrive · 19/05/2019 17:32

But after one year, I'd certainly expect to see him more than once per week and have met friends a fair few times

Gruzinkerbell1 · 19/05/2019 17:32

So did he lie and tell the B and G that you couldn’t/didn’t want to attend?

Propertywoes · 19/05/2019 17:34

Once a week and you've been together a year? That's not a relationship.

overdrive · 19/05/2019 17:36

What do you do when you see each other once a week?

elsabadogigante · 19/05/2019 17:37

He told you he wasn't ready for a relationship. You refused to listen to this. You still are. He's not your boyfriend, he's someone you waste time with. You're barking up the wrong tree. He's not into you.

DominiqueSmith · 19/05/2019 17:37

He is just not that into you. I wouldn't stick around myself.

This ^^

AutumnCrow · 19/05/2019 17:45

Why do you only see him once a week?

grincheux · 19/05/2019 17:48

Oh blah, get rid of him and find someone who actually wants to spend time with you and include you in his social circle.

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