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Didn't bring me to a wedding

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ponytaildilemma · 19/05/2019 17:20

Just that really. Bf of nearly a year went to a wedding of a close friend this weekend and did not invite me despite all the freiends partners and wives went along. Our relationship has been a very very slow burn as he wasnt really ready for a relationship. It's still slow. See eachother once a week , hang out together. No commitments or plans as such . Wedding was overseas . I thought it would be a good opportunity for us to have a nice weekend away and I was eager . He excised not bringing me as he was a groomsman but in truth he would only have had to eat dinner at the wedding table and he would have been all mine after that. Am I expecting too much?

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totallyoutnumbered · 19/05/2019 19:39

I hate to say it but agree with most of your replies I'm afraid. He just doesn't sound that into you. I think when someone is they automatically want you to be involved in this kind of thing. I'd understand if you hadn't been dating for very long but once a week feels like a very casual arrangement. I guess it depends on whether you see your future with him

BackforGood · 19/05/2019 19:45

Disappointed about the wedding as I have heard all about these friends of his and I thought that by him bringing me would cement our relationship

The bit where you say "heard all about these friends" is the bit that is odd, after going out for a year. How come you haven't met before?

As you haven't met them / don't know them / aren't friends with any of them, then I think he is right not to take you to the wedding. Even more so as it was a wedding abroad. He would be having to look after you and make sure you weren't alone, when he had other duties and responsibilities to the couple getting married, but the question is how have you got to a year, without getting to know the people that are important to him.

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ponytaildilemma · 19/05/2019 19:48

The s set of friends live overseas so he only sees them twice or three times a year.

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Mymessymind · 19/05/2019 19:51

It sounds like he always has an excuse to not see you. That must be very hurtful.

FuriousVexation · 19/05/2019 20:54

The s set of friends live overseas so he only sees them twice or three times a year.

Hooray! Give thanks to Bruce!

Oh wait. Did you for some reason want these strangers to invite you to their parties?

Justbreathing · 19/05/2019 20:57

JUST LEAVE HIM
I hope that’s clear.

billy1966 · 19/05/2019 21:09

Men know within weeks if they are into a women. They just do.
He's wasting your time.
Move on and give yourself the chance to meet someone who is into you.

Thehop · 19/05/2019 21:14

Men don’t hang around when they meet the one. My husband was with his ex 10 years. Said he just thought commitment wasn’t for him

We met married and had a baby in a year.

He doesn’t see himself as your boyfriend I would honestly cool things off and go have fun. You’ll meet someone who deserves you x

ritchiebaby · 25/05/2019 20:07

Have to agree with majority a girlfriend of one week should get more attention go fishing....not to that dating sight just anywhere other than where you are just now. Once a week visit is nothing and certainly not worry hanging around for. All men lie....I should know done it in past and paid the price, Yes I'm male. Now I have plenty female friends without benefits just to do stuff with. I see most more weekly than you get monthly...Move on and don't look back

Upzadaizy · 25/05/2019 21:45

I had a boyfriend like this. It didn't end well.

Dump him, or at least stop committing to him or thinking of a future with him.

MzHz · 25/05/2019 21:49

That was the beginning of the end for me in one of my relationships of the same duration

End it. You deserve better and will find better, but not while he’s still on the scene

Frankola · 26/05/2019 13:40

It sounds like he's not that bothered.

So it depends on you now. Either you put up with him or find someone who puts in more effort/likes you more.

I know which choice I'd make!

FabledChinHair · 26/05/2019 13:54

Doesn't sound very bothered, really sorry op. End it and find someone who values you.

Waterfallz · 26/05/2019 17:52

Sorry but i would say he's probably going wanting to be single just in case. He's not committed.

Rosielee93 · 26/05/2019 18:32

Op you already posted about him not making you apart of his life ect he has a very close female friend if i remember correctly. Just leave him and find someome who prioritises you.

bigchris · 27/05/2019 18:41

You poor thing, you must really love him to put up with this or be very afraid of being lonely

another20 · 27/05/2019 18:58

Is there possibly someone special (old flame or someone he is into) in this friendship group abroad?

You are better than this. You need and deserve more. He will not change.

GarthFunkel · 28/05/2019 21:06

OP''s latest thread. Long story short - nothing has changed www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3595060-to-be-narked-that-every-weekend-is-taken-up-without-me

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