Didn't bring me to a wedding

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Just that really. Bf of nearly a year went to a wedding of a close friend this weekend and did not invite me despite all the freiends partners and wives went along. Our relationship has been a very very slow burn as he wasnt really ready for a relationship. It's still slow. See eachother once a week , hang out together. No commitments or plans as such . Wedding was overseas . I thought it would be a good opportunity for us to have a nice weekend away and I was eager . He excised not bringing me as he was a groomsman but in truth he would only have had to eat dinner at the wedding table and he would have been all mine after that. Am I expecting too much?

He just sounds a bit meh... Together a year it should be the happiest of times, all over each other and seeing each other all the time. You shouldn't have to be worrying about this stuff. He sounds like he's keeping you at arms length, seeing you when he feels like it. You're not expecting too much and I'd bin him as think you'd be happier with someone else.

No he told the groom that he would prefer to go on his own as he felt he'd have to mind me but couldnt as he was groomsman. We watch tv, go for a walk or dinner or cinema when we see eachother . We will probably holiday together this year but he compartmentalises everything .his friends are his life and he spends huge amounts of time with them but not me so much

I would ditch him! He's not making you a priority and you deserve to be.

After a year !!
He is not that into you... sorry

You are wasting your time with this person.

Just drop him and find someone who wants to be with you as much as possible because he really likes you and enjoys your company.

You've posted about this before, haven't you?

Not into you.

Oh is this the guy who drops you off then carries on with his friends? And he doesn’t want sex, hence why he didn’t take you away to this wedding.

Slow burn? More like the dying embers. Sheesh. I have to agree with the consensus. He's not that into you.

Oh I think I remember you, you have posted about this before haven't you? He spends all his time with his mates, sees you occasionally and doesn't want sex with you? But you think he the best you can get or something?

Thanks mymessymind for the memory jog.

You are an option, not a priority here to him.

What are you getting out of this relationship now?

My best friend compartmentalises everything. It's really hard not to be able to meet his friends and family. And I'm not invited to his significant age birthday party. Because it's all family and very old friends he's known for years and years.

He is telling you very, very clearly that he is not interested in a committed relationship. If I were you, I stop wasting my precious time on him.

My best friend compartmentalises everything. It's really hard not to be able to meet his friends and family. And I'm not invited to his significant age birthday party. Because it's all family and very old friends he's known for years and years.

How on Earth is this person your best friend?!

Is this the totally gay guy that doesn't want sex with you but wants you to meet all his family for half an hour before he takes you home and spends the rest of the week with them while you wait alone at home?

Hmm. Have you seen the film ‘He’s Just Not That into You’ OP. Might be worth a watch..

On its own, I’d say it’s fine - DP and I have been together over 10 years and we happily go to events separately - it’s no fun feeling like you have to babysit your DP all evening when (especially at a wedding) you want to catch up with old friends and have a dance. Even more so if they're part of the bridal party. Often weddings are the only chance everyone has a chance to get together and having a new partner along changes the dynamic.

However, it sounds like there’s more to it with a history of him being distant and not wanting to move forward in your relationship. I’d cut your losses and move on.

Is this the totally gay guy that doesn't want sex

Like a prop? Makes sense for him if he's not ready to come out yet I suppose. Not much fun for the OP.

I dont think he did anything wrong tbh. If I was going to a friends wedding I Wilson take someone who didnt know them. I would feel I had to spend time making them feel part of the group rather than relaxing and enjoying myself.

However, I still think you should end it. Because you want different things.

I am like your boyfriend. Which probably makes it easier to see his point of view. My friends are very important to me and I spend alot of time with them. But dp knows this and is happy that if I spend more time with them.

It's clear you want proof this is a serious relationship. It's odd that you havent met them at all, after a year. He obviously doesnt feel the same.

I dont think he wrong as such. You are just on different pages. I think you should have listened when he said he disnt want a relationship.

I had a bf like this and I kept waiting for things to become more serious despite my concerns, as I didn't want to force the issue. In the end he dumped me and I felt like an idiot. Don't make the same mistake - be true to yourself and if it doesn't work out it's because it wasn't right

@overdrive, there is a significant age gap and due to his job (public figure) our friendship would cause comment. But he's a lovely lovely man.

Wot @pallisers said

Just drop him and find someone who wants to be with you as much as possible because he really likes you and enjoys your company.

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He is just not that into you

Dump him. You deserve better. He should be thrilled to show you off.