I just met this amazing man. And I do mean literally just met. We matched on a dating site and he sent me a message. We talked for a few days and We went out last Weekend and really clicked. He ticks all my boxes so far. He drove an hour and a half to pick me up and take me out because I'd had a bad week. He brought me flowers!! Nobody buys me flowers. He took me somewhere to see a band he didn't know with all my friends quizzing him and they all said how lovely he was. He drove me home and came in for coffee and we spent all night talking and snogging like teenagers before he went home in the morning. Then I get home yesterday to another bouquet of flowers because 'my others must be finished by now'.
It all sounds so perfect I know and I'm a bit worried I'm getting the warm fuzzies for this bloke and could potentially really like him. But (there has to be a but), he only split with his wife 3 months ago. I'm also married but separated 3 years now and another relationship under my belt that ended a year ago. Im terrified of allowing myself to get involved and him going back to his wife and kids. My last relationship was abusive and I'm scared of putting myself out their to be honest.
I have spoken to him about this and he has assured me he has no intentions of resuming a relationship with his wife. He admits she left him and he had a really difficult time dealing with it but that he has sought counselling since and he has no intention of going back to a marriage that he feels was essentially over several years ago. He says hes happy to move slowly and for us to get to know one another but he's hopeful.
Am I being a total pessimist here? I don't know if it's my last bad experience that has left me feeling ill never find happiness with someone or whether my reservations are justified.
This is the first time I've felt I could maybe get involved with anyone in a year since I extracted myself from my ex partner. But he's only been single 3 months. I don't know if I'm being ridiculous.