Anniversary on Monday...

[MoreHarryThanHermione]

As some of you know, dh and I are going through an awful time. he is fuckwit and I am making plans to live by myself with children then see if he can stop being a fuckwit and go from there.

i still love him very much, and he feels the same. its our 9 year anniversary on Monday and have no idea how to handle it or what to do. Card or not? What do you say? Happy anniversary, sorry you are a fuckwit doesnt quite cut it...

MHTH, I have no advice but to hear you're in this situation.

If you still love eachother a card wouldn't be a bad thing, if it's printed you don't have to write anything much in it. Good luck.

i hink a card may give false expectations. It's very sad but in the long run i think best to be honest.

I would send a card BUT ensure its not emotional iykwim.

Friends of ours split about a year ago and have just had their 7th year anniversary BUT their 1st since the split....They are both now with op....Apparently dh said that she text him saying that it would have been their anniversary today and that she acknowledged it. Said that dispite everything they had had some good times together. Actually made me cry when dh said,shame that things that were once "magical" can turn so bad. IMO its worth acknowledging that there was once something there. Surley there must have been something good given the fact your have the dk's.

Good luck for monday x