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Did you meet the love of your life in your 40s?

57 replies

Abcd3 · 13/05/2019 22:55

Just wondering whether anyone has met the love of their life in their forties, or whether “all the good ones are gone” by then! (Context: aged 40 and recently became single!)

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Sup3rCooper · 13/05/2019 22:58

I did! Aged 40. I'm now 47 and we've been married for nearly 5 years.

He's amazing, successful, very handsome, solvent and owned his own property - so yes, they're out there! He's a fantastic husband

Keep faith

Athrawes · 13/05/2019 23:02

I met the love of my life when I was 26. 23 years later we have just reconnected and are getting together. I thought soulmates was a corny cliche. It's not.

MiniTheMinx · 13/05/2019 23:05

I did. I was 42 he was 47. I'm now 46 and we got married last year. We both have children from previous relationships but neither of us had ever wanted to marry anyone else.

Tinkerbellx · 13/05/2019 23:06

Yep over here .
Met the love of my life aged 45 . I'd been married over 25 years and single for a couple .
He's 41 .... hrs never been married and no dc / own home good job and similar values . The kindest most attractive man I've known and we're moving in together later this year . Never thought I'd be lucky enough to meet someone and feel so sure and so lucky . X

Hermie12 · 13/05/2019 23:12

Almost! I was 38, had dd at 40 and just got married at 45

ShatnersWig · 13/05/2019 23:13

Bloody hope so. I'm 45 and been single 9 years this month and haven't had a date in 8 years

Slimerecipehell · 13/05/2019 23:18

Met the love of my life at 40, nearly 5 years later it’s still amazing. Makes you realise what you thought was ok before was actually a bit rubbish! He’s handsome, owns his own business, cooks, cleans, 2 beautiful children if his own and I have 2 if my own . Saying that, I did have a few rubbish dates after my divorce and meeting dp. Good luck, he’s out there!

Poppiesway1 · 13/05/2019 23:21

shatnerswig Grin I hope so too. I’m 41 and single 10 years. Dated a little bit but not much.
Have two dc with autism so makes it very hard.
I wish I could find someone accepting of my dc 😕
Then again.. after the dc dad.. not sure I could trust / live with someone ever again

onemorecupofcoffeefortheroad · 13/05/2019 23:23

A friend of mine met her true love aged 50 - she's 55 now and they're getting married this year.

tigerbear · 13/05/2019 23:25

Yup!! Been with DP just over a year. I’m 41, he’s 48. He moved in after 5 months and proposed at Christmas. He’s the most perfect man I’ve ever met.

hellenbackagen · 13/05/2019 23:31

Yup. ! 42. Proper fanny gallops and everything.!

AlyssasBackRolls · 13/05/2019 23:37

Not sure if he'll tolerate me for the rest of my life or his Grin but I've been with him two years post divorce, I'm 44 and he's 53, and every minute together is wonderful. We laugh, chat, enjoy hiking etc but spend a lot of time under duvets either having sex or watching Netflix or just talking...

So yes, I think it's absolutely possible OP x

Oldstyle · 14/05/2019 00:13

Yes. Took me until 40 to know what I actually wanted/needed in a relationship. Never been so happy or fulfilled. Had 27 years together and it was glorious.

RiversDisguise · 14/05/2019 00:17

My husband met me when he was 40, the lucky bastard.

bluedamsel · 14/05/2019 01:09

Met him at 51 and he was 41. We're now engaged. :)

forumdonkey · 14/05/2019 06:40

I was 47 and him 53 and we weren't expecting to ever be in love again. Two years later we appreciate each other and what we've got. We are very happy and in love and making plans for our future.

Nel1234 · 14/05/2019 07:23

Sure did I was 45 he was 56 been together 18 months. I have never been happier. I was happily single and wasn't looking for anyone - bumped into him one night - I had known him for years but had never thought of him in a romantic way at all - he is without a doubt the love of my life!!

Original poster
Abcd3 · 14/05/2019 14:50

Aw, thanks so much for these replies - really lovely to read!!!

@Shatnerswig and @Poppiesway1, crossing fingers for both of you that you meet a fab guy soon!

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TheDogsMother · 14/05/2019 14:57

Yep I was 44 and recently split from H. Been together nearly 12 years, bought a lovely house together and very happy too. They're out there Smile

niceupthedanceagain · 14/05/2019 15:00

Yes I did; and he's perfect for me 💗

tierraJ · 14/05/2019 15:09

I'm 42 & looking to meet a nice guy too!
Currently not finding it easy.

ang75 · 14/05/2019 15:14

Yes I found love at 43 ....hes amazing man I've never been happier ..good luck x

Mystraightenersarebroken · 14/05/2019 16:46

Yes, I was 49.

LennyBelardo · 14/05/2019 16:50

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AnnaNimmity · 14/05/2019 17:04

yes -been the best decade by far for me. Have fun!