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Did you meet the love of your life in your 40s?

57 replies

Abcd3 · 13/05/2019 22:55

Just wondering whether anyone has met the love of their life in their forties, or whether “all the good ones are gone” by then! (Context: aged 40 and recently became single!)

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ImMeantToBeWorking · 14/05/2019 17:28

My auntie did, well into her 40s mind. He was recently separated when they met. They are now engaged, buying a house together (she has one of her own already which she will keep as a rental) and they are living their best life. It can happen!

MitziK · 14/05/2019 17:54

Yep.

He had got divorced several years previously, knew him as a friend first (partly because I was in the middle of trying to break up with a clingy, manipulative, jealous and controlling bloke with the adhesive properties of an Alien Face Hugger, so didn't want to give AFH the satisfaction of actually being right in the end and partly because after that, I made a point of enjoying being single for a couple of months, having finally got rid of the waste of space), turned him down once because I didn't feel like losing the friendship over a shag, then our mates kept discreetly making sure he was around at events and disappearing into the background if we were talking.

Few months later, a mate brought him round to my house when there were bunch of people round and, although they left at about midnight, he didn't.

EggysMom · 14/05/2019 17:57

Almost here too - met at 39, had our son at 40, married last year (48)

grimupnorthLondon · 14/05/2019 17:59

My best friend did. Met him at 45, baby at 46, married at 47. He is lovely. Internet dating too.

Doidontimmm · 14/05/2019 18:02

Yes I was 44 & him 37! Both divorced and with teenage children. Almost 3 years later, love of my life, just moved in together. Soooo happy!

crappyday2018 · 14/05/2019 18:02

I'm 43 and single. Got 2 dates set up over the next week so fingers crossed for me!!!

BikeRunSki · 14/05/2019 18:04

No, but my brother did 😊

FredMerc · 14/05/2019 18:09

@Athrawes

Me too! Together for 10 years from when I was 14, engaged etc. Split up, no contact at all for 18 years. Then met again when I was single at 41, him single at 43. Now married 5 years with a DS.

PushkarKali · 14/05/2019 18:16

Yes. My partner died suddenly when I was 42. I truly thought I would never be happy again. I started going on Twitter in the evenings just for company (Archers tweetalong Smile) and just....got totally bowled over by someone. And, long story short, we’ve been married, mostly blissfully, for two years Grin

WhoKnewBeefStew · 14/05/2019 18:17

I was 43 when I met my now dh. He really is the love of my life, everything I need and want in a man. I always thought that people in their 40s come with too much baggage, but actually, with the right man, it’s not baggage and it’s all easily dealt with

Dieu · 14/05/2019 18:28

Really hoping so! I'm 45 next month Smile
I don't struggle for dates generally, but it is proving harder than I thought to find anything long-term.

crappyday2018 · 14/05/2019 18:29

Oh and my best mate met her now bloke when she was 42. They've been together a year now and seem very happy.

itsgoodtobehome · 14/05/2019 19:01

Nearly. Met at 38 (me, he was 35). We got married 2 months before I turned 40. Had DS aged 41 (nearly 42). Good luck!!

daisychain01 · 14/05/2019 20:07

ffs OP give your head a wobble. Age has got nothing to with anything, least of all love and relationships.

Look at this wonderful couple

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2747370/2-Iowa-women-married-72-years-together.html

daisychain01 · 14/05/2019 20:08

Love = No.Rules

Auntpetunia2015 · 14/05/2019 20:10

Here as well. Met my gorgeous OH 4 years ago when I was 48 and several months out of a 26 year marriage he’s funny caring kind and just makes my heart skip a beat thinking about him!! He’s also 6ft 4 which is a huge plus when I’m just shy of 6ft!!

theemmadilemma · 14/05/2019 20:12

Yes, I divorced in my late 30's met DP shortly after. I'm 43 now we want to get married. He's younger.

I didn't imagine divorce, but I'm happier now.

InfiniteSheldon · 14/05/2019 20:14

I was 44 he was 49 second marriage for him. Now been together a over a decade married for nearly 9 years he moved in 3 weeks after we met. I'd been single for 16 years.
I think it's easier in your mid/late forties kids are either sorted or off the agenda and the unhappily married men are getting divorced and back on the market.
You both have and expect the other person to have baggage. You're both more tolerant and work way harder as you know how easy it is for a relationship to fail slowly and incrementally through a lack of mutual nurturing so you make sure it doesn't happen again.

ImTheDamnFoolThatShotHim · 14/05/2019 20:16

Yes

loveonthewall · 14/05/2019 20:19

I did at 45. He fitted my bill perfectly, previous relationships but no kids. Has his own hobbies and friends. Our relationship is easy and relaxed and comforting

smallereveryday · 14/05/2019 20:22

Yes. 42 & 44 . Bliss with3 of mine and four of his.

ProfOf · 14/05/2019 20:28

I met the love of my life aged 49, he was 53. Five years of happiness, three and a half years married.

NowYouListenToMeFella · 14/05/2019 21:06

This is lovely to read. Am 39 and a bit and nothing serious serious in the last 7 years. Here's hoping for some luck for all of us.

handyandy1 · 14/05/2019 21:31

Yes! I was 39 he was 46, both in long miserable marriages 20 years Plus. It was instant love, been together 6 years and marrying at the end of this year. Never had a crossed word, laugh every day, he’s perfect 🥰 I never thought I would feel like this for someone. Don’t give up!

aboutbloodytime123 · 14/05/2019 22:04

3 weeks before my 40th birthday. On Tinder! Been together nearly 2 years now 😎