Husband and sister in law

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would it bother you if your husband and sister in law slept together before you met ?

Talk about keeping it in the family

Yes

It shouldn't but it probably would

You mean if your husband slept with your brother’s now wife? (Rather than your DH slept with his sister?)

It would bother me more if it were after . . .

Are they brother and sister? Do you mean they had sex together?

Wiggly I don't think that's what the OP means!

At least I hope not

No I do not mean his sister. I mean his brothers wife

Irrationally probably yes.

Not necessarily, but it would depend on how things were in the present time.

Was your brother married to his wife at the time?

Um, I think I might find it a tad awkward. How does BIL find it?

Was She his brothers wife when they slept together?

No they weren’t, I’m not sure I could marry someone my sister had been with though 🧐

I would be a hypocrite to say yes. I slept with my DPs brother. But about 10 years (when I was a teenager) before DP....
Also despite being with him for nearly 5 years Im not sure Ive ever properly spoken to his brother.

Would be different if it was recent and they had a close relationship.

What was the context?

Aslong as enough time had passed and they were completely appropriate now, I wouldnt mind. No different IMO to them being in contact with any other person they'd slept with...as a friend/colleague/acquaintance who came before you.

Oh. If either of them were cheating at the time then a big fat fuck off to them. Run for the hills.

Depends on the context. But probably wouldn’t bother me that much if it was a long time ago/hadn’t been a major thing between them.

I know someone who married their brothers x wife. He’s now the stepfather of his nephew!

The brothers aren’t close but do meet once a yr at family gathering.

It really depends.

If they slept together years before she hit with the brother, I would think 'meh'.

If she and the brother were already married then, yes it would be a big deal.

Also if it happened before she and the brother got together, I not sure why you would judge the first man. He slept with someone, she then got with his brother. Surely it's her and the brother, you would have issue with.....if you had an issue at all.

Was it a long time ago? Was he very young and inexperienced? Was it a one off?

I don't know that it would bother me all that much. It's the sort of thing that happens in small communities, though rather less these days.

God yes it would bother me. My dp’s ex girlfriend before he met me went on to marry his best friend. So not even blood but I found that totally bizarre! Especially by his mate, no way could I go with someone my friend had shagged!

I wouldn't care unless he had feelings for her.

Oh, I also used to have an on/off relationship with a guy years ago and later found out one of my friends slept with him (a while after I’d finished with him) She said it in conversation like it wasn’t really a big deal but it really grossed me out, I would never do that. It’s almost like eating someone else’s sloppy seconds.
If your dh slept with her first and later she got together with his brother then it’s really out of your dh’s control but it would make me uncomfortable. Your dh’s brother and wife are the strange ones imo.

Mixed views 👍🏻 Yes I agree they are the weird ones